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Thread started 03/31/15 1:48pm

bigboy784

My college advisor was really rude to me and was stressed out by me. How can I get over it and move on?

Ok..I just left my local college to enroll for the summer and fall classes.

I speak to my advisor quite frequently over the phone asking him questions. He seems like a nice guy but today, he just wasn't himself.

It could be because he's been dealing with people all day, and I understand that but he shouldn't have tooken it out on me. As he was registering me for some classes, I asked him "Does the classes have credit?" He said "Yeah, just like all the other damn classes you take". I laughed it off but I was offended. I told him "If I've stressed you out, I apologize" He said "Exactly"

Just his tone and the way he spoke to me just surprised me. I don't plan on calling him or setting up an appt to see him anytime soon, if not, ever again. I'm planning on changing my major anyway and seeing a different advisor.

But that advisor I saw today just seem so cool and nice over the phone, like he usually is but today just wasn't his day I guess.

But how can I get over it and move on?
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Reply #1 posted 03/31/15 1:51pm

RodeoSchro

I think you already have.

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Reply #2 posted 03/31/15 5:54pm

GottaLetitgo

I am an Academic Advisor and it's always weird to read stories about Advisors because we're talked about so rarely. It's an odd job that I don't think a lot of kids grow up and say "I want to be an Advisor". But here I am and all I can say is I think he was being unprofessional and that was uncool but I totally get it. I work in a department where there are 5000 students and a good portion of them think they are the most important people in the universe. Registration for Fall courses starts in early April which means there is 5 months before the students will actually attend the classes. But all of them, or a lot of them, think they must have the perfect schedule RIGHT DAMN NOW! And if we can't perform miracles they throw the whole "I'm paying your salary" crap. My mission in life, or at least in my career, is to help students. Advisors get paid crap, are at the bottom of the academic totem pole, and yet we go day in and day out because we do want to help. When a student comes to us so focused on their issues and does not realize that we are working to the best of our abilities to help not only them but the other thousands of students paying our salary it is frustrating. It does not sound like you did any of that, sounded like you caught him on a bad day when he probably had already been beat the hell out of all day, but keep in mind Advisors are human beings and sometimes they have bad days. He shouldn't have taken it out on you but maybe cut him a little slack.

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Reply #3 posted 04/01/15 8:00am

Genesia

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bigboy784 said:

Ok..I just left my local college to enroll for the summer and fall classes.

I speak to my advisor quite frequently over the phone asking him questions. He seems like a nice guy but today, he just wasn't himself.

It could be because he's been dealing with people all day, and I understand that but he shouldn't have tooken it out on me. As he was registering me for some classes, I asked him "Does the classes have credit?" He said "Yeah, just like all the other damn classes you take". I laughed it off but I was offended. I told him "If I've stressed you out, I apologize" He said "Exactly"

Just his tone and the way he spoke to me just surprised me. I don't plan on calling him or setting up an appt to see him anytime soon, if not, ever again. I'm planning on changing my major anyway and seeing a different advisor.

But that advisor I saw today just seem so cool and nice over the phone, like he usually is but today just wasn't his day I guess.

But how can I get over it and move on?


Maybe he's upset that you're in college and still saying things like "tooken" and "Does the classes have credit?"

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Reply #4 posted 04/01/15 8:01am

Empress

Based on some of your previous posts, you seem a little needy. Try not taking things so personally. Everyone has a bad day and we all have lots on our minds.
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Reply #5 posted 04/02/15 2:43am

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GottaLetitgo said:

I am an Academic Advisor and it's always weird to read stories about Advisors because we're talked about so rarely. It's an odd job that I don't think a lot of kids grow up and say "I want to be an Advisor". But here I am and all I can say is I think he was being unprofessional and that was uncool but I totally get it. I work in a department where there are 5000 students and a good portion of them think they are the most important people in the universe. Registration for Fall courses starts in early April which means there is 5 months before the students will actually attend the classes. But all of them, or a lot of them, think they must have the perfect schedule RIGHT DAMN NOW! And if we can't perform miracles they throw the whole "I'm paying your salary" crap. My mission in life, or at least in my career, is to help students. Advisors get paid crap, are at the bottom of the academic totem pole, and yet we go day in and day out because we do want to help. When a student comes to us so focused on their issues and does not realize that we are working to the best of our abilities to help not only them but the other thousands of students paying our salary it is frustrating. It does not sound like you did any of that, sounded like you caught him on a bad day when he probably had already been beat the hell out of all day, but keep in mind Advisors are human beings and sometimes they have bad days. He shouldn't have taken it out on you but maybe cut him a little slack.

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Reply #6 posted 04/03/15 11:36am

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If it's not a regular occurrence, and not affecting your life in a bad way, just try and have some compassion for the guy. We all screw up and act in a way we shouldn't once in a while.

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Reply #7 posted 04/03/15 2:13pm

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Just make a voodoo doll with some of his hair...

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Reply #8 posted 04/04/15 4:19pm

alphastreet

Easier said than done, but I learned the hard way that if you place high expectations on people, you're setting yourself up to be disappointed. I guess he is having an off day so you answered your own question, and it hurts cause you look up to/rely on him for answers, as most students do. It seems like an interesting job, but I would imagine it takes a LOT of patience spending your days answering a million questions, even repetitive or obvious ones though you shouldn't feel bad about asking either. Did you want to change anyways or is it because of this? I find that running and going somewhere else sometimes brings on the same type of issue until you learn to resolve it, what's going to happen if another advisor has a bad day too?

[Edited 4/4/15 16:20pm]

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Reply #9 posted 04/05/15 2:15am

NinaB

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Be reactive or proactive, that's basically the choice.
Your mental/emotional balance can't be at the mercy of every other mf u have to deal with on this earth.
Stand on your square, thicken that skin, man up.
Don't take shit personal, it ain't about u.

The alternative is draining 2 say the least.
"We just let people talk & say whatever they want 2 say. 9 times out of 10, trust me, what's out there now, I wouldn't give nary one of these folks the time of day. That's why I don't say anything back, because there's so much that's wrong" - P, Dec '15
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