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I guess I am trapped by my own jaded thoughts Trolls be gone! | |
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I rarely see married couples who are happy. But to them I think the idea of independance is scary and thats what keeps them "together". Marriage for life to have babies is an outdated religious tradition. love is touching souls | |
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Marriage isn't meant to make you happy, it's meant to make you married!
I read (could've even been one of the previous pages in this very thread) something that has stayed with me all week. You don't need to be lonely all by yourself, marriage makes it possible for 2 people to be lonely, TOGETHER! I'm the mistake you wanna make | |
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You're not the first person who has observed that many married people, if not most married people, are unhappy. I wonder why that is. Is it because the thrill is gone? Are they stressed out from work or kids? All of the above? I guess there is a lot of monotony in marriage and you have to keep things interesting I suppose. I'm single so I have no idea what it's like to have the same old job and go back home to the same McMansion with the same husband over and over again. I guess somewhere in there the repeition must be mind numbing at some point. Maybe there's not always joy in repetition if you know what I mean. I guess people who are married just get burned out on things and it has an effect on the kids. I have no idea and I really hope I don't ever have to find out one day either! LOL! Trolls be gone! | |
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I'm not a huge fan of Chris Rock but I remember hearing him say once that in life you have to choose between being single and lonely or married and bored. He got a good laugh from the audience, so I guess it must be true then! Trolls be gone! | |
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ZombieKitten said: Marriage isn't meant to make you happy, it's meant to make you married!
I read (could've even been one of the previous pages in this very thread) something that has stayed with me all week. You don't need to be lonely all by yourself, marriage makes it possible for 2 people to be lonely, TOGETHER! When soul mates find each other, then marry, then end up fighting or lonely, how sad. Maybe marriages require regular counselling guidance to keep them alive. love is touching souls | |
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Yeah I guess the same amount of energy that goes into dating should go into marriage once they have entered into that chapter of their lives. Trolls be gone! | |
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SeventeenDayze said:
You're not the first person who has observed that many married people, if not most married people, are unhappy. I wonder why that is. Is it because the thrill is gone? Are they stressed out from work or kids? All of the above? I guess there is a lot of monotony in marriage and you have to keep things interesting I suppose. I'm single so I have no idea what it's like to have the same old job and go back home to the same McMansion with the same husband over and over again. I guess somewhere in there the repeition must be mind numbing at some point. Maybe there's not always joy in repetition if you know what I mean. I guess people who are married just get burned out on things and it has an effect on the kids. I have no idea and I really hope I don't ever have to find out one day either! LOL! How do you know most married people are unhappy? Youve conducted a survey? Marriage is not a walk in the park..you need to work at it.. but so do you for all relationships..married or not. Whats wrong with being in a long term relationship? Oh yeah its so boring..grow up sweetheart. Baby, you're a star.
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BillieBalloon said: SeventeenDayze said:
You're not the first person who has observed that many married people, if not most married people, are unhappy. I wonder why that is. Is it because the thrill is gone? Are they stressed out from work or kids? All of the above? I guess there is a lot of monotony in marriage and you have to keep things interesting I suppose. I'm single so I have no idea what it's like to have the same old job and go back home to the same McMansion with the same husband over and over again. I guess somewhere in there the repeition must be mind numbing at some point. Maybe there's not always joy in repetition if you know what I mean. I guess people who are married just get burned out on things and it has an effect on the kids. I have no idea and I really hope I don't ever have to find out one day either! LOL! How do you know most married people are unhappy? Youve conducted a survey? Marriage is not a walk in the park..you need to work at it.. but so do you for all relationships..married or not. Whats wrong with being in a long term relationship? Oh yeah its so boring..grow up sweetheart. Sorry didn't mean to offend you. Do you mind me asking if it is not a walk in the park and you need to work at it, why do you do it? love is touching souls | |
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You seem to have elevated your standards for yourself. A while ago you posted about how you love guys who were obviously bad news.
I don't feel like raising a boy of 42 into an adult man. 99% of my posts are ironic. Maybe this post sides with the other 1%. | |
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Woman: You dodged a bullet.
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Thanks for your observations about my previous posts I guess it does come down to making a choice instead of "needing" to pair up with a guy because it was a necessity. Also thanks for sharing a bit from your own persona experiences. It gives me hope that there are a lot of women out there who have made the conscious decision not to settle for any old fella that comes along. I guess it takes a lot more resilience to do that instead of just cowering so that you can fit in with some aspect of society. Trolls be gone! | |
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And there's the short answer Trolls be gone! | |
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So being alone after getting divorced is better than being alone after never marrying?
To quote Cool James, "I don't think so". "Never let nasty stalkers disrespect you. They start shit, you finish it. Go down to their level, that's the only way they'll understand. You have to handle things yourself." | |
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Good point. I think there is a lot of pressure for people to marry but then nobody tells you how to be good at it! Trolls be gone! | |
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Duplicate post-website error [Edited 10/26/14 17:54pm] Trolls be gone! | |
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Nothing like an 80s pop song to help us figure out the complexities of life Trolls be gone! | |
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YowMaScroow said: BillieBalloon said: How do you know most married people are unhappy? Youve conducted a survey? Marriage is not a walk in the park..you need to work at it.. but so do you for all relationships..married or not. Whats wrong with being in a long term relationship? Oh yeah its so boring..grow up sweetheart. Sorry didn't mean to offend you. Do you mind me asking if it is not a walk in the park and you need to work at it, why do you do it? If its worth it to you..youll do it. If not then you wont. If you love your partner and its mutual then you will do what it takes to be and stay together. Unfortunately some people end up with morons..life can be shitty. Baby, you're a star.
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Yeah ending up with a moron does seem like it is a big fear of mine but I guess at some point I have to piss or get off the pot. Either I care enough to take the steps to be in a relationship or I accept not being in one. I guess I can't have the best of both worlds. Trolls be gone! | |
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People who are fine being alone by themselves don't have to be in a relationship, but can enjoy that kind of life and sleep around if that is what makes them happy in life. But when somebody decides to be in a serious relationship that person should be aware of the responsibilty and consequences. With a very special thank you to Tina: Is hammer already absolute, how much some people verändern...ICH hope is never so I will be! And if, then I hope that I would then have wen in my environment who joins me in the A.... | |
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29 and been alone for a long long time. My life is strange. unlucky7 reincarnated | |
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Oh I understand, trust me. Trolls be gone! | |
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Has 2 children n married, wouldnt change it for anything | |
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I really enjoyed this article, thanks for sharing. It irritates me when people ask how I'm doing and throw in the question "so are you seeing anyone?" I'm used to being asked about work, but the relationship one has gone up more and more since I turned 30. Though companionship is nice, settling for less isn't and I agree with most of the points in the article though I know there are good men out there too. | |
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I wonder what your criteria/standards are. | |
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Cinny said:
I wonder what your criteria/standards are. Well it can't be draining with me doing all the work. I know that for sure. He better be able to support himself without relying on me all the time, and equal shared responsibilities at home are important too. I'd like personal space as well and understanding of my condition cause partners in the past were not getting it and had no sense of personal boundaries if I needed it. It's no longer about shared common interests or similar cultural background to be able to relate though those are considered bonuses, respect going both ways is more important. If he doesn't treat his family well especially the females, that's very telling as well. I don't want kids but if I change my mind, he better be a good role model to them and man up. [Edited 11/4/14 10:37am] | |
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Not too much to ask! | |
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Nope, not at all. I think sometimes people think women's standards are too high but could we agree that sometimes men's standards (of themselves) are too low? Trolls be gone! | |
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