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i'm Afraid To Have Kids... I mean I'm only 23 and have a lot of time. But I'm more terrified to bring a kid into the world every day. Literally everyday i hear about kids murdered, raped, hurt, left in hot cars, killed in war etc. And babies... fucking babies are molested. What kind of sick piece of useless dog shit does that? and people on my facebook love to post that shit. I'll be on break at work and see it. Check my FB and someone posts ''OMG'' then there's an article about a toddler sexually molested. Pistols sounded like "Fuck off," wheras The Clash sounded like "Fuck Off, but here's why.."- Thedigitialgardener
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I decided, a long time ago, that I don't WANT to have children, I'm 29 now, been THINKING about it since I was 18 at least; this may sound freudinian, but I think I AM my own kid...
when I settle down ( IF I settle down) I'll look for a woman who doesn't want children either, simple as that...
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Do you worry a lot about your kids? i know there older now. But did you every worry about these things? or about letting them go out on their own? Pistols sounded like "Fuck off," wheras The Clash sounded like "Fuck Off, but here's why.."- Thedigitialgardener
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What if a kid accidently happens Pistols sounded like "Fuck off," wheras The Clash sounded like "Fuck Off, but here's why.."- Thedigitialgardener
All music is shit music and no music is real- gunsnhalen Datdonkeydick- Asherfierce Gary Hunts Album Isn't That Good- Soulalive | |
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I feel the same way Guns.
Dearest Christian, I'm So Very Sorry for Bringing You Here. Love, DadWhy can't I keep you from the cold? I can't tell the angels I had no right I had no right You're in love with all that you don't know I'm trying to tell the angels I had no right I had no right Not for you When you asked the angels I had no right, baby I had no right
[Edited 9/10/14 17:14pm] “It means finding the very human narrative of a man navigating between idealism and pragmatism, faith and politics, non- violence, the pitfalls of acclaim as the perils of rejection” - Lesley Hazleton on the first Muslim, the prophet. | |
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Never heard that PM Dawn song! but i love it going to put it on my ipod. Pistols sounded like "Fuck off," wheras The Clash sounded like "Fuck Off, but here's why.."- Thedigitialgardener
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then I'd give my best to become a sensitive, sensible, responsible father
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Abuse tends to happen when you are not around....
so plan to raise your kids and be very hands on, and they will be fine.
Parents see their kids when they wake them up, and again to before they go to bed... maybe they see their kids for what? Two hours minus sleep time? That's a lot of time in a day for shit to happen, particulary if the child is still a newborn at a daycare center and can not speak.
Many parents get sitter for the babies as young as one month old, or younger.... all depends on the hustle.
OR you could always adopt shelter animals... they need love too. Make your own brand of happy yanno?
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Once your kids is born, life as you know it is over
Actually the greatest miracle ever Ohh purple joy oh purple bliss oh purple rapture! REAL MUSIC by REAL MUSICIANS - Prince "I kind of wish there was a reason for Prince to make the site crash more" ~~ Ben |
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i'd probably be one of those ridiculously overprotective parents. the main concern i've dwelled on is -- would the child be wise enough to make it in this world? cuz if wisdom is at all genetic, i'd need to marry a seriously wise man to give the child a chance, lol -- i guess that's just something i'd have to pray for continually -- wisdom and safety. My hats off to all parents -- thank you. what i value most from my parents is just a sense of love and concern and encouragement, way more than any material stuff. flowing through the veins of the tree of life...purplemaplesyrup | |
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I knew in my early 20s I didn't want to be a father. Thirty years later I don't regret my decision one bit. It's a big emotional and financial responsibility. Some folks aren't cut out to be parents - I'm one of them. Besides, I'd never bring a black child into such a hate-filled world. [Edited 9/11/14 0:51am] | |
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I totally feel you | |
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I have a 23 year old son... I made mistakes with him and my second child working all the time, where stuff happened. Sometimes it's not avoidable because parents need to work to pay bills.
Things like.... getting icecream from the icecreamtruck , baking, watergun fights, farting, playing games, dancing, counting the moments when you hear thunderstrikes under the blanket fort in the living room, etc. can really bring out the giggles and the pure joy in the simple spontaneus moments that make you feel like a kid again.
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Think of all the idiots out there having kids. Or the ones who had kids by accident. Or the ones who were way too young to know what they were doing and got pregnant. And they get congratulated for it. Meanwhile, when smart well-meaning people decide not to have kids, nobody throws a party for them. Society seems not to value them. These days I have more respect for people who decide not to have kids. Because, let's face it - anyone can release their sperm into a woman and get her pregnant. And any woman can sit there and let it happen. But how many of them actually know how best to raise a child or even prepare for it? Having kids in life is just one experience you can have, but there are many others to choose from. | |
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I think having children is selfish if you're not ready or too scared, and being self-aware is a good thing, don't let anyone tell you otherwise. But don't let the fear factor and this state of angst towards the world (and we've all been there) get in the way of what can change later on in life when you least expect it either. 23 years old, you're still very young and have your whole life ahead of you. We can't completely protect people from this world, and it's a scary one out there, but with wisdom, knowledge and life experiences, one can learn to empower their children, and teach them self-respect, manners, educate them treating people well and healthy boundaries early in life, self-defense and teaching male children it's not okay to hit a girl or hurt anybody, and teaching problem solving skills verbally, which is what most people lack. It's valuable later in life what they can learn from parents and family as opposed to letting tv, social media and peers teach them, if only parents made an effort to better themselves before even bothering to have kids.
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paintedlady said:
I have a 23 year old son... I made mistakes with him and my second child working all the time, where stuff happened. Sometimes it's not avoidable because parents need to work to pay bills.
Things like.... getting icecream from the icecreamtruck , baking, watergun fights, farting, playing games, dancing, counting the moments when you hear thunderstrikes under the blanket fort in the living room, etc. can really bring out the giggles and the pure joy in the simple spontaneus moments that make you feel like a kid again.
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Only now that my kids are in the realm of teenagers am I REALLY getting worried about shit. By St. Boogar and all the saints at the backside door of Purgatory! | |
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I never had any children because 1) I didn't want to have a child out of wedlock and and 2) I didn't want to be a single parent. Yes, I understand that even having a child while married did not guarantee I would not end up a single mother eventually. I saw the trials of raising children from friends and coworkers. I don't regret not having children. Sure, they can be a joy, but raising them with love and guidance doesn't always guarentee they would not end up breaking your heart. | |
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THIS.
You know how times I've heard "what's wrong with you?" for not wanting kids, mostly from relatives. And I'm a guy....I bet women who feel like me get more crap. [Edited 9/11/14 8:24am] | |
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I declared I didn't want to have children in high school. Mostly I don't want to or maybe afraid of going through the process of being pregnant with possible health risks for mother and/or child. I'm not married and I definitely don't want to raise a child solo, especially since it's not financially feasible. Luckily, there is no pressure on me, maybe other people can tell I'm not motherly material, but I think I'm a decent auntie. Other than wanting to name a child, the desire to have one has never been comparable to the desire of wanting a cat. lol! "Funkyslsistah… you ain't funky at all, you just a little ol' prude"!
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It's silly to be afraid to have them but not having children is an excellent choice to make. | |
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Well said PJ.
I was nervous about havig a baby; I thought I wouldn't have the patience. I didn't know how important a role my parents, my siblings / spouses, in-laws, and extended family would play in being a support system for us. I am so grateful. My husband tripped like PurpleJedi when our daughter hit her teenage years. You hope that your kids think and use the tools you've taught them to navigate this thing called life. I recall my mohers advice /wisdom when I was in a tight and needed guidance, just as I remember when I ignored her advice / wisdom and fell on my ass. I'd hope our daughter would be able do the same....
The danger and evil that's out there? Hopefully, she has the tools to cope with that as much as any person can. Yeah some people need a baby like they needed a hole in the head, but some kids are born jerks and they will die as jerks... their parents aren't at fault.
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Super smart.....in my book. FOOLS multiply when WISE Men & Women are silent. | |
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Prince, in you I found a kindred spirit...Rest In Paradise. | |
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