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Would men want a relationship with a woman that's saving herself for marriage ? I'd like to hear from both a woman & man's perspective .This has been a very embarrassing topic for me to ask people close to me , so I figured "Hey , why not ask you guys from all around the world ? "My background ... I am saving myself for marriage & this guy wants a relationship with me that is experienced . Our situation is that I don't want to feel pressured & rush anything because I'm already aware of the possible outcome . There's foreplay involved , but that's about it .But anyways ... share your point of views in this topic . It would be very appreciated .[Edited 7/5/13 12:09pm] i have twitter .... just ask for it . | |
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For sure, if he is also interested in getting married. | |
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I know someone that tried that. The sex after marraige was beyond bad. The relationship lasted 6 months. | |
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You'll see if he is for real if he waits.
And Gray, you can fix bad sex. | |
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Why even take it as far as "foreplay" if you intend to wait until after marriage? "Aren't you even curious? Don't you want to see the dragon behind the door?" | |
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Is that a judgement or ...... ? But to answer the question ... simply because we were just in the moment but stopped ourselves before it did get any further . i have twitter .... just ask for it . | |
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The idea of a woman waiting until marriage is fantastic. However, as JustErin pointed out, some men are only after the ego boost of being someone's first and have no intention of also being the last. If he's not willing to wait, you know which category he falls under.
The first girl I ever fell in love with was a virgin and we planned on waiting, but after nearly 5 years, it ended before we made it to the alter. I felt like a fool for investing so much time and energy (not to mention my heart) into something and having nothing to show for it. I guess that's the risk you have to take, but that's the only reason I would be hesitant to wait on someone else.
And why can't I put spaces between paragraphs anymore...is it just me?! [Edited 7/5/13 16:26pm] | |
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xpertluva said: The idea of a woman waiting until marriage is fantastic. However, as JustErin pointed out, some men are only after the ego boost of being someone's first and have no intention of also being the last. If he's not willing to wait, you know which category he falls under.
The first girl I ever fell in love with was a virgin and we planned on waiting, but after nearly 5 years, it ended before we made it to the alter. I felt like a fool for investing so much time and energy (not to mention my heart) into something and having nothing to show for it. I guess that's the risk you have to take, but that's the only reason I would be hesitant to wait on someone else.
And why can't I put spaces between paragraphs anymore...is it just me?! [Edited 7/5/13 16:26pm] So you were just in it to sleep with her? Nothing to show for it? | |
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No, I wanted forever. | |
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Although I'm not a virgin (I lost my at age 18 back in 1992), I would have absolutely no problem dating and/or being in a relationship with a woman is saving herself for marriage. At least I know she's fresh, inexperience, AND definitely 100% STD-free. | |
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Heck yeah! | |
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xpertluva said:
No, I wanted forever. I'm sorry to hear that it didn't work out. Five years is indeed a lot of time. | |
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I agree with Erin, if the end game (for the lack of better words) is marriage. Many guys wouldn't have a problem with waiting to have an intimate relationship after marriage.
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TD3 said: I agree with Erin, if the end game (for the lack of better words) is marriage. Many guys wouldn't have an problem with waiting to have an intimate relationship after marriage. I agree 100%. I think some people believe love is going solve any outstanding problems before marriage. Their is not fixing if a man doesn't like giving oral and vice versa. | |
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Speaking as someone who's also saving herself for marriage....
The salvation of man is through love and in love. - Dr. V. Frankl
"When you close your heart, you close your mind." - Michael Jackson (Man In The Mirror) "I don't need anger management, I need people to stop pissing me off" | |
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I can't fathom every doing that or any man wanting to do that. But, that's me. | |
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Just out of curiousity, what are you waiting for to get married than? Is there a minimum time to be with somebody? | |
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Nope. Nada. Besides, I tell women from jump-street, if you're looking at me as potential mate, look elsewhere. Better to be honest at the beginning than to lie, lead her along and break her heart. | |
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If the only thing you're holding back is intercourse, then sure, that's fine. But if you are not really allowing any kind of sexuality beyond a bit of foreplay, then no. My Legacy
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I for damn sure wouldn't want that. But, I guess if an experienced guy really is willing to wait, you must be something damn special for him to wait on . I will say that he may get to a point where he'll get tired of waiting, so I hope you're familiar with other forms of sex that don't involve penetration. Hand-jobs, oral sex, thigh fucking......stuff like that. Don't be surprised if you hear the old "Let me just stick the tip in", or the "Just give me, like, 3 pumps" excuses. الحيوان النادلة ((((|̲̅̅●̲̅̅|̲̅̅=̲̅̅|̲̅̅●̲̅̅|)))) ...AND THAT'S THE WAY THE "TITTY" MILKS IT!
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I'm not going to stick around to find out. Best of luck to the next guy. I don't want you to think like me. I just want you to think. | |
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You are assuming she is also telling the truth.
Didn't know inexperience was a plus regarding sex. I'm not the one. I don't want you to think like me. I just want you to think. | |
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If sex is the most important thing to you, good fucking riddance. | |
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Yeah cuz women are lying whores. | |
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I see Sup had to come up in here and push some buttons and rattle the cage.
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No it's not, but fixing 'bad' sex?
I'm not in a relationship to change somebody. If we aren't going to be sexually compatible, let's find better matches to marry.
We are not going to marry and now you don't do this, can't do like, only did that because I like it and all that other BS. I don't want you to think like me. I just want you to think. | |
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No, but they all aren't sugar and spice either are they?
Let's not pretend women don't lie to themselves and to their partners in relationships. Men do to.
Seems to be a mammal thing.
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HA! To each his own. Throw bricks but you can deal with the inexperience also. Ain't nobody got time for that. I don't want you to think like me. I just want you to think. | |
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