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Thread started 07/05/13 11:56am

92tilinfinity

Would men want a relationship with a woman that's saving herself for marriage ?

I'd like to hear from both a woman & man's perspective .

This has been a very embarrassing topic for me to ask people close to me , so I figured "Hey , why not ask you guys from all around the world ? "

My background ... I am saving myself for marriage & this guy wants a relationship with me that is experienced . Our situation is that I don't want to feel pressured & rush anything because I'm already aware of the possible outcome . There's foreplay involved , but that's about it .

But anyways ... share your point of views in this topic . It would be very appreciated .

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Reply #1 posted 07/05/13 12:17pm

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If all he wants is the sex then runnnnnnnnnn!!!

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Reply #2 posted 07/05/13 12:19pm

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For sure, if he is also interested in getting married.

Men love the idea of being the first.

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Reply #3 posted 07/05/13 1:29pm

Graycap23

I know someone that tried that.

The sex after marraige was beyond bad.

The relationship lasted 6 months.

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Reply #4 posted 07/05/13 2:15pm

Stymie

You'll see if he is for real if he waits.

And Gray, you can fix bad sex.

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Reply #5 posted 07/05/13 2:18pm

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Why even take it as far as "foreplay" if you intend to wait until after marriage?

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Reply #6 posted 07/05/13 3:03pm

92tilinfinity

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Why even take it as far as "foreplay" if you intend to wait until after marriage?

Is that a judgement or ...... ? But to answer the question ... simply because we were just in the moment but stopped ourselves before it did get any further .

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Reply #7 posted 07/05/13 4:25pm

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The idea of a woman waiting until marriage is fantastic. However, as JustErin pointed out, some men are only after the ego boost of being someone's first and have no intention of also being the last. If he's not willing to wait, you know which category he falls under.

The first girl I ever fell in love with was a virgin and we planned on waiting, but after nearly 5 years, it ended before we made it to the alter. I felt like a fool for investing so much time and energy (not to mention my heart) into something and having nothing to show for it. I guess that's the risk you have to take, but that's the only reason I would be hesitant to wait on someone else.

And why can't I put spaces between paragraphs anymore...is it just me?! mad

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Reply #8 posted 07/05/13 4:58pm

Stymie

xpertluva said:

The idea of a woman waiting until marriage is fantastic. However, as JustErin pointed out, some men are only after the ego boost of being someone's first and have no intention of also being the last. If he's not willing to wait, you know which category he falls under.



The first girl I ever fell in love with was a virgin and we planned on waiting, but after nearly 5 years, it ended before we made it to the alter. I felt like a fool for investing so much time and energy (not to mention my heart) into something and having nothing to show for it. I guess that's the risk you have to take, but that's the only reason I would be hesitant to wait on someone else.



And why can't I put spaces between paragraphs anymore...is it just me?! mad

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So you were just in it to sleep with her? Nothing to show for it?
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Reply #9 posted 07/05/13 5:00pm

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Stymie said:

xpertluva said:

The idea of a woman waiting until marriage is fantastic. However, as JustErin pointed out, some men are only after the ego boost of being someone's first and have no intention of also being the last. If he's not willing to wait, you know which category he falls under.

The first girl I ever fell in love with was a virgin and we planned on waiting, but after nearly 5 years, it ended before we made it to the alter. I felt like a fool for investing so much time and energy (not to mention my heart) into something and having nothing to show for it. I guess that's the risk you have to take, but that's the only reason I would be hesitant to wait on someone else.

And why can't I put spaces between paragraphs anymore...is it just me?! mad

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So you were just in it to sleep with her? Nothing to show for it?

No, I wanted forever.

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Reply #10 posted 07/05/13 5:05pm

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Although I'm not a virgin (I lost my at age 18 back in 1992), I would have absolutely no problem dating and/or being in a relationship with a woman is saving herself for marriage. At least I know she's fresh, inexperience, AND definitely 100% STD-free. cool

I still want her to sign a prenup. But, you know! wink

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Reply #11 posted 07/05/13 5:05pm

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Heck yeah!

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Reply #12 posted 07/05/13 5:17pm

Stymie

xpertluva said:



Stymie said:


xpertluva said:

The idea of a woman waiting until marriage is fantastic. However, as JustErin pointed out, some men are only after the ego boost of being someone's first and have no intention of also being the last. If he's not willing to wait, you know which category he falls under.



The first girl I ever fell in love with was a virgin and we planned on waiting, but after nearly 5 years, it ended before we made it to the alter. I felt like a fool for investing so much time and energy (not to mention my heart) into something and having nothing to show for it. I guess that's the risk you have to take, but that's the only reason I would be hesitant to wait on someone else.



And why can't I put spaces between paragraphs anymore...is it just me?! mad


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So you were just in it to sleep with her? Nothing to show for it?


No, I wanted forever.


I'm sorry to hear that it didn't work out. Five years is indeed a lot of time.
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Reply #13 posted 07/05/13 6:09pm

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I agree with Erin, if the end game (for the lack of better words) is marriage. Many guys wouldn't have a problem with waiting to have an intimate relationship after marriage.

Maybe Gray should define what he means by "bad sex". You can fix bad sex but you may not be able to fix sexual incompatibility all that readily. People should have frank decisions about sex before marriage anyway... not only what they like or maybe don't like but their sexual relationship for the long haul. (IMHO)


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Reply #14 posted 07/05/13 6:13pm

Stymie

TD3 said:

I agree with Erin, if the end game (for the lack of better words) is marriage. Many guys wouldn't have an problem with waiting to have an intimate relationship after marriage.

Maybe Gray should define what he means by "bad sex". You can fix bad sex but you may not be able to fix sexual incompatibility all that readily. People should have frank decisions about sex before marriage in way... not only what you like or maybe don't like but your sexual relationship for the long haul. (IMHO)


I agree 100%. I think some people believe love is going solve any outstanding problems before marriage. Their is not fixing if a man doesn't like giving oral and vice versa.
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Reply #15 posted 07/05/13 7:10pm

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Speaking as someone who's also saving herself for marriage....


Most guys I've come across with have no patience to wait around for marriage. But there is always exception.

I am currently in a relationship with a guy that's experienced...and I told him from the very start that I don't fool around before marriage. Also told him that if that's a problem, he can run along. Guess what, he stuck around...and even though there are times that we want that aspect of a relationship, our relationship is more wholesome...and we connect on many different levels. We learn new things about each other that I'm sure, if or when the time comes, making love will be worth the wait. Sex can sometimes get in the way of learning about another person.


The man you're with has to want to be the first and last (as you are for him). If he is, then it's totally possible.


Good luck! biggrin

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Reply #16 posted 07/05/13 7:32pm

imago

I can't fathom every doing that or any man wanting to do that. But, that's me.


Sex is the only thing that makes being in a committed relationship tolerable for most men.

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Reply #17 posted 07/05/13 7:40pm

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ThruTheEyesOfWonder said:

Speaking as someone who's also saving herself for marriage....


Most guys I've come across with have no patience to wait around for marriage. But there is always exception.

I am currently in a relationship with a guy that's experienced...and I told him from the very start that I don't fool around before marriage. Also told him that if that's a problem, he can run along. Guess what, he stuck around...and even though there are times that we want that aspect of a relationship, our relationship is more wholesome...and we connect on many different levels. We learn new things about each other that I'm sure, if or when the time comes, making love will be worth the wait. Sex can sometimes get in the way of learning about another person.


The man you're with has to want to be the first and last (as you are for him). If he is, then it's totally possible.


Good luck! biggrin

Just out of curiousity, what are you waiting for to get married than? Is there a minimum time to be with somebody?

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Reply #18 posted 07/05/13 8:07pm

uPtoWnNY

Nope. Nada. Besides, I tell women from jump-street, if you're looking at me as potential mate, look elsewhere. Better to be honest at the beginning than to lie, lead her along and break her heart.

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Reply #19 posted 07/05/13 11:14pm

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If the only thing you're holding back is intercourse, then sure, that's fine. But if you are not really allowing any kind of sexuality beyond a bit of foreplay, then no.

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Reply #20 posted 07/06/13 11:50am

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I for damn sure wouldn't want that. But, I guess if an experienced guy really is willing to wait, you must be something damn special for him to wait on nod. I will say that he may get to a point where he'll get tired of waiting, so I hope you're familiar with other forms of sex that don't involve penetration. Hand-jobs, oral sex, thigh fucking......stuff like that. wink Don't be surprised if you hear the old "Let me just stick the tip in", or the "Just give me, like, 3 pumps" excuses. wink lol

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Reply #21 posted 07/06/13 1:13pm

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Stymie said:

You'll see if he is for real if he waits.

And Gray, you can fix bad sex.

eek

I'm not going to stick around to find out. Best of luck to the next guy.

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Reply #22 posted 07/06/13 1:15pm

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TonyVanDam said:

Although I'm not a virgin (I lost my at age 18 back in 1992), I would have absolutely no problem dating and/or being in a relationship with a woman is saving herself for marriage. At least I know she's fresh, inexperience, AND definitely 100% STD-free. cool

I still want her to sign a prenup. But, you know! wink

You are assuming she is also telling the truth.

Didn't know inexperience was a plus regarding sex. I'm not the one.

I don't want you to think like me. I just want you to think.
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Reply #23 posted 07/06/13 1:27pm

Stymie

SUPRMAN said:

Stymie said:

You'll see if he is for real if he waits.

And Gray, you can fix bad sex.

eek

I'm not going to stick around to find out. Best of luck to the next guy.

If sex is the most important thing to you, good fucking riddance.

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Reply #24 posted 07/06/13 1:28pm

Stymie

SUPRMAN said:

TonyVanDam said:

Although I'm not a virgin (I lost my at age 18 back in 1992), I would have absolutely no problem dating and/or being in a relationship with a woman is saving herself for marriage. At least I know she's fresh, inexperience, AND definitely 100% STD-free. cool

I still want her to sign a prenup. But, you know! wink

You are assuming she is also telling the truth.

Didn't know inexperience was a plus regarding sex. I'm not the one.

Yeah cuz women are lying whores.

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Reply #25 posted 07/06/13 2:04pm

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I see Sup had to come up in here and push some buttons and rattle the cage. rolleyes



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That's right ladies if a man ever goes soft on you or can not keep it up to get you off, dump his tried ass. No second chances. the FIRST time ! DON"T WAIT AROUND >>>>>>>>>>>>> exit. wink

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Reply #26 posted 07/06/13 2:05pm

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SUPRMAN said:

TonyVanDam said:

Although I'm not a virgin (I lost my at age 18 back in 1992), I would have absolutely no problem dating and/or being in a relationship with a woman is saving herself for marriage. At least I know she's fresh, inexperience, AND definitely 100% STD-free. cool

I still want her to sign a prenup. But, you know! wink

You are assuming she is also telling the truth.

Didn't know inexperience was a plus regarding sex. I'm not the one.

hmm brick

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Reply #27 posted 07/06/13 2:38pm

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Stymie said:

SUPRMAN said:

eek

I'm not going to stick around to find out. Best of luck to the next guy.

If sex is the most important thing to you, good fucking riddance.

No it's not, but fixing 'bad' sex?

I'm not in a relationship to change somebody. If we aren't going to be sexually compatible, let's find better matches to marry.

We are not going to marry and now you don't do this, can't do like, only did that because I like it and all that other BS.

I don't want you to think like me. I just want you to think.
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Reply #28 posted 07/06/13 2:39pm

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Stymie said:

SUPRMAN said:

You are assuming she is also telling the truth.

Didn't know inexperience was a plus regarding sex. I'm not the one.

Yeah cuz women are lying whores.

No, but they all aren't sugar and spice either are they?

Let's not pretend women don't lie to themselves and to their partners in relationships. Men do to.

Seems to be a mammal thing.

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Reply #29 posted 07/06/13 2:41pm

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TD3 said:

SUPRMAN said:

You are assuming she is also telling the truth.

Didn't know inexperience was a plus regarding sex. I'm not the one.

hmm brick

HA! To each his own. Throw bricks but you can deal with the inexperience also. Ain't nobody got time for that.

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