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Thread started 03/04/13 12:15pm

Gunsnhalen

My Org Fam I Need Advice

One of the guys who has given me a lot of set jobs past 6 months invited me to go an event Puff Daddy is hosting. It's for his current fundraiser for AquaHydrate... and I'm feeling nauseous just thinking about it/:

I Am confident but don't feel i have enough confidence to network at a big event like that.. and there will be HUNDREDS of people there and to that idk how to standout or even try to start a conversation.

Big parties like these can be stressful and nerve racking. I hope i can build up some confidence and actually try to go.


But at the moment.... i don't know confused It sounds childish but i am kind of scared going to something like this... i feel like the kid who isn't getting picked for the cool team there.

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Reply #1 posted 03/04/13 12:17pm

Cuddles

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I would decline the invitation immediately.

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Reply #2 posted 03/04/13 1:52pm

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Your azz is tall. You'll have no problems standing out. Just show up, might be fun.
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Reply #3 posted 03/04/13 1:54pm

RodeoSchro

Hell yes you go! You're THE MAN! You know it, I know it, the whole freaking Org knows it!

You walk into that party and dazzle everyone you meet with your incredible politeness and good manners, and soon you will be getting booked for jobs that pay five figures and above (and yes I'm talking about five figures not including the cents!).

I guarantee it. NO ONE can stop you!

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Reply #4 posted 03/04/13 4:19pm

babynoz

First off, do not call him Puff Daddy...I don't think they call him that anymore. lol

Secondly, be yourself. The most insufferable thing is trying too hard to impress other people. You are personable and good looking...remember that.

Third, are you allowed to bring a friend? Having at least one person you know at the event helps.

Prince, in you I found a kindred spirit...Rest In Paradise.
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Reply #5 posted 03/04/13 11:54pm

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Gunsnhalen said:


I ma confident but


You don't sound it.

Don't make me brick you. You are a charmer on here and I'm sure you are/can be in person. This is one of those sink or swim career moments. There's plenty of folk who would jump at the invite..Hello wave

Networking is such a big part of so many careers now.

Get your shit together and GO. mad

hug

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Reply #6 posted 03/05/13 12:07am

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Go to the event and have fun. Take some pictures and post them and report back to us. hug

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Reply #7 posted 03/05/13 1:49am

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The real question is--will you regret not going more than going? Of course, you would! Look at it as a learning experience and just enjoy...rather than something that will make you or break you. It won't! Try to have some fun! wink

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Reply #8 posted 03/05/13 11:52pm

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purplethunder3121 said:

The real question is--will you regret not going more than going? Of course, you would! Look at it as a learning experience and just enjoy...rather than something that will make you or break you. It won't! Try to have some fun! wink

I agree completely. Try to put things into proper perspective and not place too much importance on it. Relax and have an open mind. At the very least, if you go, you won't have to question what might have been.

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Reply #9 posted 03/06/13 4:12am

dJJ

It's a party, so just go and have fun!

Networking is about what you can offer somebody. So, don's worry about it.

If you are just yourself, have fun and forget about business, you might even have a good time.

I would prefer to have a good time at a party than sit at home, knowing that I could have been there, but I got so neurotic about it, that I stayed home. confused

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Reply #10 posted 03/06/13 4:53am

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Chile, get yourself a cute outfit and GO. I know glamour profession events can sometimes suck monkey balls because a lot of the people involved are vapid idiots....but...give this invitation the benefit of the doubt; it can also turn out to be a pleasant experience as well as a good opportunity to network or simply indulge in cool cocktail conversation.

Don't sell yourself short; just go and get in where you fit in, and just be your charming self heart

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Reply #11 posted 03/06/13 5:40am

tinaz

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Those bitches arent any better than you!! Why shouldnt you be able to party it up!!! Just look at them as they are, HUMANS who wipe their ass after they shit and pick their noses the same as you!

Your MOTHERFUCKING GUNSNHALEN for crying out loud!!!

Now go get your PARTAAAAAY on!!!!!

spelled your name wrong edit biggrin

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Reply #12 posted 03/06/13 5:55am

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luv4u said:

Go to the event and have fun. Take some pictures and post them and report back to us. hug

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Reply #13 posted 03/06/13 10:47am

dJJ

So...........How was the party?

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Reply #14 posted 03/06/13 11:04am

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Ottensen said:

Chile, get yourself a cute outfit and GO. I know glamour profession events can sometimes suck monkey balls because a lot of the people involved are vapid idiots....but...give this invitation the benefit of the doubt; it can also turn out to be a pleasant experience as well as a good opportunity to network or simply indulge in cool cocktail conversation.

Don't sell yourself short; just go and get in where you fit in, and just be your charming self heart

Yes. Opportunity is knocking exclaim hug

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Reply #15 posted 03/06/13 1:33pm

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dJJ said:

So...........How was the party?

He's still in bed with a hangover.

Next time that he photowhores there's gonna be a tribal tattoo on his face.

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Reply #16 posted 03/06/13 1:39pm

bobzilla77

My wife & I run our own online magazine here in LA. I sometimes get invited to fancy parties for promotional events, and it is somewhat intimidating to go alone when I don't know anyone there.

But as long as there are free drinks and free food I make the best of it. biggrin

Sometimes I'll find someone else obviously there alone, maybe another writer, and it's easy to make conversation. Especially after the free drinks have started flowing. If you overhear someone talking about a great gig they were at it's not poor form to chime in with an opinion about that artist.

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Reply #17 posted 03/06/13 1:43pm

OnlyNDaUsa

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I say:

This is it, it's time for you to go to the wire

You will hit 'cause you got the burnin' desire

It's your time, you got the horn so why don't you blow it?


"Keep on shilling for Big Pharm!"
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Reply #18 posted 03/06/13 1:47pm

bobzilla77

If I were you I would go & at least spend half an hour chowing. With hundreds of people there it won't be as uncomfortable as say, an intimate dinner with 10 people you never met. You can just hang out, survey the scene, partake of the offerrings and head out if you're not having fun. Or you might find yourself staying all night with a lampshade on your head. Either way there's nothing to be afraid of.

I went to a similar event w/my wife and almost bailed in the middle of it because of thre same social awkwardness. But I managed to relax & get into it, and by the end of the night Pamela Des Barres was asking me for advice on what kind of book she should write next (answer: an oral history of the GTOs, which she didn't seem that keen on, but anyway).

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Reply #19 posted 03/06/13 5:35pm

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bobzilla77 said:

If I were you I would go & at least spend half an hour chowing. With hundreds of people there it won't be as uncomfortable as say, an intimate dinner with 10 people you never met. You can just hang out, survey the scene, partake of the offerrings and head out if you're not having fun. Or you might find yourself staying all night with a lampshade on your head. Either way there's nothing to be afraid of.

I went to a similar event w/my wife and almost bailed in the middle of it because of thre same social awkwardness. But I managed to relax & get into it, and by the end of the night Pamela Des Barres was asking me for advice on what kind of book she should write next (answer: an oral history of the GTOs, which she didn't seem that keen on, but anyway).

Pam has hella stories to tell... lol

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Reply #20 posted 03/06/13 6:52pm

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First, quit being a punk. You ARE being picked for the cool team, but you are considering sabotaging yourself before you're even up to bat!

Next, do four simple things at your next convenience:

1) Accept the invitation.

2) Get some tasteful business cards printed up. Nothing all flashy, trendy and ridiculous, but something that represents the personal brand you want to project.

3) Pick out a professional outfit using the same guidelines as above.

4) Jot down two or three people that you refuse to leave that room without having introduced yourself to. And two or three would be sufficient to make this a successful outing for you. Don't be crazy about it: Diddy himself may be tough to rub shoulders with. But think of three accessible individuals who would be strategic connections at this stage in your career.

Follow this very simple plan. And remember: Everyone in that room will have taken a shit that day -- and it will have smelled awful. Think of that as you roam around and may feel intimidation coming on. They're human, just like you.

Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ
πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν
τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.”
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Reply #21 posted 03/06/13 9:48pm

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Lammastide said:

First, quit being a punk. You ARE being picked for the cool team, but you are considering sabotaging yourself before you're even up to bat!

Next, do four simple things at your next convenience:

1) Accept the invitation.

2) Get some tasteful business cards printed up. Nothing all flashy, trendy and ridiculous, but something that represents the personal brand you want to project.

3) Pick out a professional outfit using the same guidelines as above.

4) Jot down two or three people that you refuse to leave that room without having introduced yourself to. And two or three would be sufficient to make this a successful outing for you. Don't be crazy about it: Diddy himself may be tough to rub shoulders with. But think of three accessible individuals who would be strategic connections at this stage in your career.

Follow this very simple plan. And remember: Everyone in that room will have taken a shit that day -- and it will have smelled awful. Think of that as you roam around and may feel intimidation coming on. They're human, just like you.

I love that advice. My late father gave me some similarly colorful advice when I was a kid.

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Reply #22 posted 03/06/13 10:30pm

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Lammastide said:

First, quit being a punk. You ARE being picked for the cool team, but you are considering sabotaging yourself before you're even up to bat!

Next, do four simple things at your next convenience:

1) Accept the invitation.

2) Get some tasteful business cards printed up. Nothing all flashy, trendy and ridiculous, but something that represents the personal brand you want to project.

3) Pick out a professional outfit using the same guidelines as above.

4) Jot down two or three people that you refuse to leave that room without having introduced yourself to. And two or three would be sufficient to make this a successful outing for you. Don't be crazy about it: Diddy himself may be tough to rub shoulders with. But think of three accessible individuals who would be strategic connections at this stage in your career.

Follow this very simple plan. And remember: Everyone in that room will have taken a shit that day -- and it will have smelled awful. Think of that as you roam around and may feel intimidation coming on. They're human, just like you.

This is very good practical advice for anyone trying to network in a similar situation... nod

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Reply #23 posted 03/07/13 12:09am

Gunsnhalen

Sorry for the late reply everyone! thank you all for the comments smile

I have decided i most likely will go to the event i outweighed more than enough good thing's VS bad on this.

The event is not for 2 weeks though so i have time to prepare.

Pistols sounded like "Fuck off," wheras The Clash sounded like "Fuck Off, but here's why.."- Thedigitialgardener

All music is shit music and no music is real- gunsnhalen

Datdonkeydick- Asherfierce

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Reply #24 posted 03/07/13 12:38am

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Gunsnhalen said:

Sorry for the late reply everyone! thank you all for the comments smile

I have decided i most likely will go to the event i outweighed more than enough good thing's VS bad on this.

The event is not for 2 weeks though so i have time to prepare.

Good for you! If you don't like it, you can always leave, too... wink

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Reply #25 posted 03/07/13 2:19am

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Gunsnhalen said:

Sorry for the late reply everyone! thank you all for the comments smile

I have decided i most likely will go to the event i outweighed more than enough good thing's VS bad on this.

The event is not for 2 weeks though so i have time to prepare.

headbang

Good for you!

And don't worry about networking.

In my experience, it will come to you.

Only I was so stupid not to take advantage of it.

*I was at a psychologist convention in Boston a while ago, when I still had a career.

And that day tickets for a Prince concert in Holland got on sale. And I was a member of the fanclub, so my boyfriend in Amsterdam promised me to get tickets for the concert.

I was so nervous about it, that I was in the corner, getting my cell phone in a socket, in stead of paying attention to convention. A man came up to me, and asked me if I could escort him to his hotel, because he could not find it. And this man was Dr. Beck!!!

In psychologyland, he is very famous and influential!

I escorted him to his hotel and he offered me a place at the Beck Institute. Unfortunetely I declined. I still regret it.

*Same convention a year later. I smoked back then, so hung out at the smokers corner. There was a man who I got along with very well, we joked a lot. Next day he was there again, and he said it was his birthday. So, I told him he was just a pervert who wanted me to kiss him. So, I let him show his drivers license to prove it to me.

Than I read his name, Dr. Pennebaker. Again, a pretty well known psychologist, and the Key Note Speaker of the convention. He laughed so loud when he saw my expression, when I realized who I called an old pervert.

So, it is my experience that networking flows natural.

I hope you can just have fun when you are there. And maybe something will come out of it, or maybe not. But at least you've been there and maybe you even had fun!

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Reply #26 posted 03/07/13 2:20am

dJJ

So, what are the other Orgers networking stories?

I'm curious.

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Reply #27 posted 03/07/13 2:21am

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Reply #28 posted 03/07/13 4:27am

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Gunsnhalen said:

Sorry for the late reply everyone! thank you all for the comments smile

I have decided i most likely will go to the event i outweighed more than enough good thing's VS bad on this.

The event is not for 2 weeks though so i have time to prepare.

the person that hired you for the gig has confidence in you!

"Keep on shilling for Big Pharm!"
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Reply #29 posted 03/07/13 9:18am

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Oh honey, they wouldn't make me nervous at all. Just remember that even though they may be rich and famous, they're shit hoppers so it's not like you'll be around real stars like Prince, Madonna, etc. Just throw your nose in the air and know that you're better than they are and are just there because it's job related. evillol

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