is that even possible? do you consider it as "sex" (or as something similar but ultimately different?)

what do you think about when you read the term "online sex"? virtual chats? porn sites?webcam mutual masturbation?

have you ever paid for it? have you ever had "free" online sex with a friend, or with your girl-boyfriend/wife-husband?

discuss

Is this somehow related to my "Single Orgers" Valentine's Day thread????

What do you think about when you read the term "online sex"? virtual chats? porn sites?webcam mutual masturbation?

All of the above?

Have you ever paid for it?

HELL NO! I've been offered to be paid for it though

Have you ever had "free" online sex with a friend, or with your girl-boyfriend/wife-husband?

Yes I have. Plunty of times. With more than one person at a time as well.

Just a reminder - anyone that wants a Valentine for Valentines Day, let me know. I will be anyone and everyone's valentine!

PurpleJedi said:

Is this somehow related to my "Single Orgers" Valentine's Day thread????

mmm you don't waste time do ya?

PurpleJedi said:

Is this somehow related to my "Single Orgers" Valentine's Day thread????

LOLOL!!

To me it means that both people are knowingly arousing each other.

Whether or not they are each pleasuring themselves while typing away is not as important as whether or not they think they other one is.

It is basically one step up from using porn or your own imagination.

You are basically getting feedback from the person you are trying to arouse.

When you watch porn, you know that they are NOT being turned on by you. Nor do they care to be. Nor do they even care to see the people that are being turned on by them.

Online sex works for those who not only like to get turned on but also feel the need to be a turn on, either in pics, vids or just words, for someone else.

I'm all for it, very positive about it.

Unfortunately am not in the mood to make time for it.

its not online sex...................

its online friendship ~ friendship that matters

and u really get to know a person

continuously chatting to them ~ all the time 4 such a long time

making u laugh

making u cry

making u happy

keeping u going

you share your inner most deepest thoughts, fears, ideas, dreams..........

there is a bond that is different and unexplainable

u can tell them anything and everything

and u look forward to seeing their name light up your screen

and its not at all 1 sided ~ they get from u what they give 2 u

and the closeness is untouchable

until

suddenly 4 no real apparent reason they disappear

vanish

with out a word or a goodbye

like all those moments never happened

like it was all so insignificant

like u r a nobody 2 them

and it hurts

and its lonely

and the void of that connection now broken can never b filled

that big thing that was just so cool is now ice stuck in your throat

a rip in your heart

you never hear from them and u just dont get it

they go thinking it would b easy this way

when really its not and never will b

and even tho u know they r gone

the really sad thing is that u still look for them

u r holding onto a spec of hope

thinking that maybe one day they will remember the feeling of seeing your name light up their screen

if u talk 2 me again i'll know in seconds cause as lame as it is ~ i still look 4 u

2 b honest the reality of it all is just so fucked up

i've paid for porn. several times. don't think i can afford it again with pornhub and my full untarnished library . attempted online sex with an orger. she vanished and i met some of her real life counterparts . ready for free "companionship", but am stuck with my loving mother, a quiet neighborhood, a creepy computer i can't look away from and yeah. any orger wants to fedex me their drawers, you've seen my profile .

ThisOne said:

its not online sex...................

its online friendship ~ friendship that matters

and u really get to know a person

continuously chatting to them ~ all the time 4 such a long time

making u laugh

making u cry

making u happy

keeping u going

you share your inner most deepest thoughts, fears, ideas, dreams..........

there is a bond that is different and unexplainable

u can tell them anything and everything

and u look forward to seeing their name light up your screen

and its not at all 1 sided ~ they get from u what they give 2 u

and the closeness is untouchable

until

suddenly 4 no real apparent reason they disappear

vanish

with out a word or a goodbye

like all those moments never happened

like it was all so insignificant

like u r a nobody 2 them

and it hurts

and its lonely

and the void of that connection now broken can never b filled

that big thing that was just so cool is now ice stuck in your throat

a rip in your heart

you never hear from them and u just dont get it

they go thinking it would b easy this way

when really its not and never will b

and even tho u know they r gone

the really sad thing is that u still look for them

u r holding onto a spec of hope

thinking that maybe one day they will remember the feeling of seeing your name light up their screen

if u talk 2 me again i'll know in seconds cause as lame as it is ~ i still look 4 u

2 b honest the reality of it all is just so fucked up

I try to protect myself to focus on reality and not to project my needs and dreams on guys that give me attention. In both reality and virtual reality.

It's hard to keep it real though, sometimes.

dJJ said:

ThisOne said:

its not online sex...................

its online friendship ~ friendship that matters

and u really get to know a person

continuously chatting to them ~ all the time 4 such a long time

making u laugh

making u cry

making u happy

keeping u going

you share your inner most deepest thoughts, fears, ideas, dreams..........

there is a bond that is different and unexplainable

u can tell them anything and everything

and u look forward to seeing their name light up your screen

and its not at all 1 sided ~ they get from u what they give 2 u

and the closeness is untouchable

until

suddenly 4 no real apparent reason they disappear

vanish

with out a word or a goodbye

like all those moments never happened

like it was all so insignificant

like u r a nobody 2 them

and it hurts

and its lonely

and the void of that connection now broken can never b filled

that big thing that was just so cool is now ice stuck in your throat

a rip in your heart

you never hear from them and u just dont get it

they go thinking it would b easy this way

when really its not and never will b

and even tho u know they r gone

the really sad thing is that u still look for them

u r holding onto a spec of hope

thinking that maybe one day they will remember the feeling of seeing your name light up their screen

if u talk 2 me again i'll know in seconds cause as lame as it is ~ i still look 4 u

2 b honest the reality of it all is just so fucked up

I try to protect myself to focus on reality and not to project my needs and dreams on guys that give me attention. In both reality and virtual reality.

It's hard to keep it real though, sometimes.

Great advice DJJ.

Besides, if they can vanish, I'd rather them do it now, then later. They did you a favor by vanishing sooner than later. Less time invested.

dJJ said:

I try to protect myself to focus on reality and not to project my needs and dreams on guys that give me attention. In both reality and virtual reality.

It's hard to keep it real though, sometimes.

i realised the hard way

ThisOne said:

dJJ said:

I try to protect myself to focus on reality and not to project my needs and dreams on guys that give me attention. In both reality and virtual reality.

It's hard to keep it real though, sometimes.

i realised the hard way

Most of us did. And the other learned by witnessing other's pain.

dJJ said:

ThisOne said:

i realised the hard way

Most of us did. And the other learned by witnessing other's pain.

yall need some ONLINE SEX to ease the pain

JoeTyler said:

dJJ said:

Most of us did. And the other learned by witnessing other's pain.

yall need some ONLINE SEX to ease the pain

I prefer reality.

ThisOne said:

its not online sex...................

its online friendship ~ friendship that matters

and u really get to know a person

continuously chatting to them ~ all the time 4 such a long time

making u laugh

making u cry

making u happy

keeping u going

you share your inner most deepest thoughts, fears, ideas, dreams..........

there is a bond that is different and unexplainable

u can tell them anything and everything

and u look forward to seeing their name light up your screen

and its not at all 1 sided ~ they get from u what they give 2 u

and the closeness is untouchable

until

suddenly 4 no real apparent reason they disappear

vanish

with out a word or a goodbye

like all those moments never happened

like it was all so insignificant

like u r a nobody 2 them

and it hurts

and its lonely

and the void of that connection now broken can never b filled

that big thing that was just so cool is now ice stuck in your throat

a rip in your heart

you never hear from them and u just dont get it

they go thinking it would b easy this way

when really its not and never will b

and even tho u know they r gone

the really sad thing is that u still look for them

u r holding onto a spec of hope

thinking that maybe one day they will remember the feeling of seeing your name light up their screen

if u talk 2 me again i'll know in seconds cause as lame as it is ~ i still look 4 u

2 b honest the reality of it all is just so fucked up

Wow

IT IS MY STORY EXACTLY

like you read my diary and wrote it over so neatly without all the "fuck" and such taken out.

I met "Bubba" on October 29th 2011 and on December 4th 2012 he had just flown in to South America. He wrote his last words to me from his hotel "Hon, I'm fading. I'm in Surinam. I gotta crash".

We never argued.

He was a pilot and traveled a lot. We never met.

The only picture of his face i had was one with sunglasses on.

On Dec 2nd he sent a pic of his face that was clear and i could see his eyes.

I had no clue that i was roped in as much as i was.

At first i didn't think much of his absence. But xmas eve I figured it out.

I vomited. That is all i could do.

like you I can't let go of the secret hope that we will cross paths again.

Was i in love with him? I only know i loved the person I became when I chatted with him.

fictitious books are full of facts; nonfiction is never the whole story.

These phony relationships can be very real the way that real relationships can be very phony.

It was like a day on the playgroud as a child.

Pretend you are a new kid on the playground.

There is a kid on the playground, not like your usual choice of friends but he wants to play and so do you.

You tell him your name is deadflower, he says he is Bubba.

Does it really matter?

Your just playing.

You don't even live here, it is not your usual stopping ground but you are here now and you would like to have some fun.

Bubba has fun written all over his face.

He pushes your swing and you push his.

He is good at pushing and is so happy when you push him.

The harder you push him the more he likes it.

You laugh together.

you forget that you really don't know this big lug of a kid.

He doesn't make fun of your silly giggles

and you don't mind if he squeals like a pig.

You head for the sea saw. it takes only a few moments to get your balance despite your difference in size.

you go a little up,

then him

you fly higher

now it is his turn,

faster and faster.

look no hands

you laugh and squeal

you are high in the air,

he haars his mother calling

he jumps off and runs for his door

you hit the grouond hard

you know the meaning of Katy Perry's lyrics " I'm wide awake"

You brush your self off but you can feel you hurt your trail bone.

Silly to cry in the park all alone.

and you are all alone now.

You glare at his front door

he is probably eating dinner.

The sky grows dark and you keep staring. Knowing that it is time to leave, time to walk away but you want hin to come back out. Come back out, please, so I can yell at you for the way you let me fall so hard without warning.

But then the truth is you'd want to make plans to meet again.

Does he not come back because he feels guilty?

Does he not want to be seen playing with a little girl from a different neighborhood?

You'll never know.

You don't want to ever come by this playground again.

But you do, and when you do you look for him, for a sign that he has been around.

anything.

When it doesn't happen that nausea reappears.

it happens every time.

Do you regret meeting him?

Trusting him?

No, because he pushed you until you laughed. he brought out sides of you that you never saw before.

And maybe that something you can bring into your next encounter. Who knows?

JoeTyler said:

is that even possible? do you consider it as "sex" (or as something similar but ultimately different?)

what do you think about when you read the term "online sex"? virtual chats? porn sites?webcam mutual masturbation?

have you ever paid for it? have you ever had "free" online sex with a friend, or with your girl-boyfriend/wife-husband?

discuss

This is interesting question When I was younger I tought on porn sites with images and (reare in that time) videis, latter a was think about hot chats with nice girls. In past 5 years I am looking to find sex, mean real sex not just exchanging messages or something. So let say that is evolution from images to real women and girls I would say

So that is why your questions make sense for me, when I read your questions, and tought about this what I just wrote, got that my 'picture' of online sex changed over time... Mean my expectations changed

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No thanks.

whats the point? cruising for sex irl is so much more thrilling