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Welcome to my life Today I'm at work and I see I've missed a call from my 19 year old.
I call her back and she tells me that my mom has let my daughter's dog out of his kennel again this morning, then went downstairs to her apartment and left the dog out. Ari (my daughter's Husky), got into seedling plants we had on the kitchen counter. He made such a mess my daughter had to shampoo the carpet.
My mom thinks that it is neglect to kennel our dog at night. Eventhough we've asked her not to let the dog out in the am she does anyway.
Every day.
Ari stays up with my daughter, so he's not in the kennel for as long as my mother thinks he is and we've told her that.
Repeatedly.
My daughter cleans up the messes Ari makes because he is her dog and because she is respectful of her grandmother, but she's ticked that my mom keeps letting her dog out and leaving him unattended.
I've asked my mom not to do that, but she still does.
This is just an example of shit my mom does. It's been a year now and as much as I love my mom, it was the biggest mistake I've ever made having her move in with us.
Welcome to my life.
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Thanks for looking. I'm firmly planted in denial | |
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"Shit My Mom Does" could be your ticket to fame and fortune, if you play your Twitter card right! | |
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LOL
I wouldn't unleash the shit my mom does on the public. The level of depression would lead to spikes in suicides and whatnot. I'm firmly planted in denial | |
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Ask her to leave. | |
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Well...that would give her the option to say "No!" If it breaks when it bends, U better not put it in! | |
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Buy a
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1) The less diplomatic : buy a lock!
2) Maintaining the level of respect she desires, move the kennel to her room? Well look whom I found dipping their toe in the murky waters! :eyeroll: At least offer me a damn cup of coffee! | |
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tinaz said: Buy a
That is one way I'm thinking. I may have to tell my daughter to lock her door when she goes to bed and tell my mom exactly why we're locking it. As far as telling her (versus asking) she needs to get her own place, it may come to that, but I've been praying it would not. I'm firmly planted in denial | |
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Muse2NoPharaoh said: 1) The less diplomatic : buy a lock!
2) Maintaining the level of respect she desires, move the kennel to her room? GUUUUURL!!! How you been? *  *I'm firmly planted in denial | |
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Nothinbutjoy said: Today I'm at work and I see I've missed a call from my 19 year old.
I call her back and she tells me that my mom has let my daughter's dog out of his kennel again this morning, then went downstairs to her apartment and left the dog out. Ari (my daughter's Husky), got into seedling plants we had on the kitchen counter. He made such a mess my daughter had to shampoo the carpet.
My mom thinks that it is neglect to kennel our dog at night. Eventhough we've asked her not to let the dog out in the am she does anyway.
Every day.
Ari stays up with my daughter, so he's not in the kennel for as long as my mother thinks he is and we've told her that.
Repeatedly.
My daughter cleans up the messes Ari makes because he is her dog and because she is respectful of her grandmother, but she's ticked that my mom keeps letting her dog out and leaving him unattended.
I've asked my mom not to do that, but she still does.
This is just an example of shit my mom does. It's been a year now and as much as I love my mom, it was the biggest mistake I've ever made having her move in with us.
Welcome to my life.
My grandpa used to hawk huge chunks of lung butter into the kitchen trash can. And leave hair-dye stains all over the pillowcases. He smoked in his room too and nobody else smoked indoors there. (I love u grandnpa!!). That kinda sucked an whatnot...but I'll NEVER forget the time he lived with us. We got close. I would go in his room with him and we'd talk for HOURS....literally. all kindsa stories....his time in new york...the merchant marines....living in new Orleans....all his hi-jinx in los Angeles...all the women he banged....it was endless...when he finally moved out, things didn't change. I was at his house CONSTANTLY. I'D bring my homies over there...he met ALL my friends. He would always talk about the lot-lizards accross the street having "the AIDS"...not just AIDS, but "The AIDS". My grandpa was cool as fuck and i never regret the days he lived with us, regardless of the nasty stupid shit he did in our house....days upon days upon days if awesome memories....something I don't have with my grandmother(both r passed now). I mentioned the lung butter...my grandpa died of lung cancer... Which was probably beginning during the whole lung butter phase... :l Long story short...it has its costs...but your daughter has a wonderful chance to build a wonderful relationship with what is most likely a wonderful woman. Ride it out. | |
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Muse2NoPharaoh said: 1) The less diplomatic : buy a lock!
2) Maintaining the level of respect she desires, move the kennel to her room? Hey Muse...long time no see...how ya doin! Outta nowhere I see a "muse2no.....". I was like WTF! I thought she was gone! Hug hug hug! [Edited 4/27/12 0:00am] | |
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So sorry you have to deal with that... Sometimes you give someone an inch and they take a mile!
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Don't ever think that!!!
There will ALWAYS be disagreements & stress with family members...but they are your flesh & blood.
Hang in there...can you buy a padlock, give your daughter the combination?...if your mom busts out the industrial clippers to cut the lock and leaves the dog out to make a mess, then you're well within your right to make her clean it up. You realize that in her mind, she's doing what's in the best interest for the dog, right? (BTW - maybe the doggie needs to be reprimanded better? This behavior sounds like he needs a good whack on the nose with a rolled-up newspaper every now & then.)
I can only assume that your mom is getting up there in age? They get very "childish" as they age sometimes. My late grandmother refused to come live with anyone, and always got angry with the help they hired to take care of her & towards the end she wasn't being taken care of well at all. Your daughter will one day look back and laugh at this quirk of your mom's.
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That fucking sucks majorly.
Sounds like this isn't the only area where she doesn't respect your wishes and your home.
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I have no advice, just wanted to give you a
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Thank you everyone!
Let me share another tidbit.
My husband, after being clean for 12 years, relapsed horribly in Nov 2011. Since then, let's just say, life with him has been challenging. At first I was going to move out. Then I was going to have him move out. It's been HORRIBLE. (He is now in treatment and we're working things out)
So one day, in the thick of all this, it's in the morning, I'm in the kitchen about to go into the garage to get in my car and drive an hour to my job. My mom is in the kitchen and she says and I quote,
"Hey, you know I just thought of something. Have you ever thought about how Ben's face will look when you tell him you want him to move out?"
Honestly, I have never wanted to punch someone in the face as much as her at that very moment. I was stunned into inaction and looking back on it, I think my mind froze much like a computer will freeze when you tell it to do too much at once. The "I love my mom" part of my brain was restraining the "Punch in the face" part of my brain and I froze.
WHO SAYS THAT TO SOMEONE?? WHEN THEY'RE WALKING OUT THE DOOR TO START THEIR DAY??
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and don't think of punching her in the face ever... but if a random jar of marbles falls to the floor and she takes a hard spill, you have the go ahead to giggle while she squirms before you ask her if she's OK.
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Nothinbutjoy said: Thank you everyone!
Let me share another tidbit.
My husband, after being clean for 12 years, relapsed horribly in Nov 2011. Since then, let's just say, life with him has been challenging. At first I was going to move out. Then I was going to have him move out. It's been HORRIBLE. (He is now in treatment and we're working things out)
So one day, in the thick of all this, it's in the morning, I'm in the kitchen about to go into the garage to get in my car and drive an hour to my job. My mom is in the kitchen and she says and I quote,
"Hey, you know I just thought of something. Have you ever thought about how Ben's face will look when you tell him you want him to move out?"
Honestly, I have never wanted to punch someone in the face as much as her at that very moment. I was stunned into inaction and looking back on it, I think my mind froze much like a computer will freeze when you tell it to do too much at once. The "I love my mom" part of my brain was restraining the "Punch in the face" part of my brain and I froze.
WHO SAYS THAT TO SOMEONE?? WHEN THEY'RE WALKING OUT THE DOOR TO START THEIR DAY??
Wow!  ...yeah....that's harsh and ignorant of boundaries....I'm re-thinking my prior post. | |
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Okay...you really, really need more of these; By St. Boogar and all the saints at the backside door of Purgatory! |
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Honestly, it was involuntary thinking. That's why I think my brain froze up. Total malfunction.
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hey welcome back! | |
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i know how you feel
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By St. Boogar and all the saints at the backside door of Purgatory! |
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Thank you again everyone. The * :hugs: * have really helped. I'm firmly planted in denial | |
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Oh, think about it.
Think about it allll you want.
It's not like you're gonna do it.
I'd definitely want to punch anyone who did that to me as I'm trying to face my day. | |
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I don't know if you or she are in the position to get her living on her own so I'm not gonna give much advice and just give u one of these.
Your mom does need to respect that you are a grown ass woman and this is your home. | |
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