missfee said:

Ottensen said:

It's kinda tripping me out that somebody would mess up their job over some juvenile type BS ...and they don' even actually have a relationship as it were to show for it (not that that should remotely even be an incentive when it comes down to self-worth and self-preservavtion), but they're just f**cking up office energy & flow of operation to the point where mediation might need to brought in ?

I'm thinking this guy may need to be brought in instead....

oh my damn

Ottensen said:

missfee said:

I'm thinking this guy may need to be brought in instead....

oh my damn

Hey, so far we haven't talked to each other in the past few days, so things are calm, thankfully.

First of all, what kind of dude says leave me alone forever, then still finds a way to involve themselves in situations where they KNOW you will be there (and I'm talking about stuff that happens away from work too).

I dunno, seems like some of you on this thread are taking this way too seriously.

My reputation is fine. He has his "crew" that thinks I'm the one at fault. There's people that I know who blame him for most of the nonsense. So, just depends on who you ask....

But hey, I sent him a rude Valentine's Day e-card and on some level I'm sure he appreciated the attention

[Edited 2/17/12 10:21am]

SeventeenDayze said:

morningsong said:

I sure your co-workers would love a mediation to take place cause it sounds like it's escalating and that kind of tension in the workplace makes people very nervous these day for good reason. You are aware that there are people in this world who'll beat the living crap out of someone and claim the deepest love, it all starts somewhere. Some folks jump anyway for the excitement. Happy landings.

Happy landings? So um, you think I'm gonna like run off and marry this dude or sun'in?

Well, the guy has backed off a lot and actually hasn't been there in a few days, thankfully. For now, it's quiet but I know he has people watching me and telling him everything I say/do. Dude seems obsessed with me for some reason.

It means, your behind can go "splat" quite easily if you don't use your brain. IF, all this stuff is true about how this person is behaving under these circumstances the odds are they have some mental issues you are not prepared to deal while you are romanticizing it, in other words, your using other parts of your body to think with not your brain. And as far as his friends are concerned, I'm sure you've heard of 'birds of a feather...' Crazy loves crazy. I would think if this is disturbing your work environment, you'd take it a step higher and get more authority involved.

Ottensen said:

Pomade said:

paintedlady said: Sounds like a disruptive work environment and she is being identified as an instigator, not a victim. Remember - most people involved in office relationships DENY it when asked.

It's kinda tripping me out that somebody would mess up their job over some juvenile type BS ...and they don' even actually have a relationship as it were to show for it (not that that should remotely even be an incentive when it comes down to self-worth and self-preservavtion), but they're just f**cking up office energy & flow of operation to the point where mediation might need to brought in ?

Gets back to my earlier point that it doesn't seem like the whole story is being posted. I still think the element that normally would explain this kind of behavior... Ah, well, never mind.

Pomade said:

Ottensen said:

It's kinda tripping me out that somebody would mess up their job over some juvenile type BS ...and they don' even actually have a relationship as it were to show for it (not that that should remotely even be an incentive when it comes down to self-worth and self-preservavtion), but they're just f**cking up office energy & flow of operation to the point where mediation might need to brought in ?

Gets back to my earlier point that it doesn't seem like the whole story is being posted. I still think the element that normally would explain this kind of behavior... Ah, well, never mind.

The whole story?

Why do you keep coming back to read and comment then? If you think it's crap just don't comment and ignore it. Are we putting every single thread under a microscope now for authenticity? Gimme a break.

SeventeenDayze said:

Pomade said:

Gets back to my earlier point that it doesn't seem like the whole story is being posted. I still think the element that normally would explain this kind of behavior... Ah, well, never mind.

The whole story?

Why do you keep coming back to read and comment then? If you think it's crap just don't comment and ignore it. Are we putting every single thread under a microscope now for authenticity? Gimme a break.

Please re-visit post #134, second paragraph.

...and don't forget, you've started all these threads waxing poetic on this dude, this non-relationship and reaching out for advice or even just to babble on what appears to be a ludicrous situation to any person with a shred of common sense. You can't be annoyed with orgers every time you run into a post that's not patting you on the back and hi-five-in' the nonsense of it all.

Ottensen said:

SeventeenDayze said:

The whole story?

Why do you keep coming back to read and comment then? If you think it's crap just don't comment and ignore it. Are we putting every single thread under a microscope now for authenticity? Gimme a break.

Please re-visit post #134, second paragraph.

...and don't forget, you've started all these threads waxing poetic on this dude, this non-relationship and reaching out for advice or even just to babble on what appears to be a ludicrous situation to any person with a shred of common sense. You can't be annoyed with orgers every time you run into a post that's not patting you on the back and hi-five-in' the nonsense of it all.

Your comment reminds me of why I simply lurked around on the Org for YEARS before actually creating an account and posting comments! You are taking this to another level by not coming up for air with your attempt to hurl insults. Okay, fine, you think I'm an idiot? Good for you. Glad to see that you keep coming back for more. Nobody is asking for high fives and I most certainly am NOT asking you to keep stalking me here on this thread with your bitter commentary. GO away!

Thanks.

SeventeenDayze said:

Ottensen said:

Please re-visit post #134, second paragraph.

...and don't forget, you've started all these threads waxing poetic on this dude, this non-relationship and reaching out for advice or even just to babble on what appears to be a ludicrous situation to any person with a shred of common sense. You can't be annoyed with orgers every time you run into a post that's not patting you on the back and hi-five-in' the nonsense of it all.

Your comment reminds me of why I simply lurked around on the Org for YEARS before actually creating an account and posting comments! You are taking this to another level by not coming up for air with your attempt to hurl insults. Okay, fine, you think I'm an idiot? Good for you. Glad to see that you keep coming back for more. Nobody is asking for high fives and I most certainly am NOT asking you to keep stalking me here on this thread with your bitter commentary. GO away!

Thanks.

Ottensen obviously hates you which means she obviously is in love with you.

JustErin said:

SeventeenDayze said:

Your comment reminds me of why I simply lurked around on the Org for YEARS before actually creating an account and posting comments! You are taking this to another level by not coming up for air with your attempt to hurl insults. Okay, fine, you think I'm an idiot? Good for you. Glad to see that you keep coming back for more. Nobody is asking for high fives and I most certainly am NOT asking you to keep stalking me here on this thread with your bitter commentary. GO away!

Thanks.

Ottensen obviously hates you which means she obviously is in love with you.

Whoops-- I see someone else noticed the pattern here, too I shouldn't laugh because it's kinda sad, actually.

JustErin said:

SeventeenDayze said:

Your comment reminds me of why I simply lurked around on the Org for YEARS before actually creating an account and posting comments! You are taking this to another level by not coming up for air with your attempt to hurl insults. Okay, fine, you think I'm an idiot? Good for you. Glad to see that you keep coming back for more. Nobody is asking for high fives and I most certainly am NOT asking you to keep stalking me here on this thread with your bitter commentary. GO away!

Thanks.

Ottensen obviously hates you which means she obviously is in love with you.

If you keep coming back to complain, you're an idiot plain and simple?

Is this normal for you? Something is "terrible" so you keep returning to it, like a dog to it's own vomit? Don't you have a life beyond being critical of posts from total strangers?

Geez, grow up some of you and relax. It just seems too easy to bait you into repeating the same behaviors that you claim you come here to "laugh at me" for doing....so, whatever!!!!

On another note, I haven't heard from him in a week, so it's all good now I threatened to go to the police and showed several other people a few of the emails....he knows the heat is on him. But, he still works actively to sabotage what I do at work but it's okay, karma will deal with him.

SeventeenDayze said:

JustErin said:

Ottensen obviously hates you which means she obviously is in love with you.

If you keep coming back to complain, you're an idiot plain and simple?

Is this normal for you? Something is "terrible" so you keep returning to it, like a dog to it's own vomit? Don't you have a life beyond being critical of posts from total strangers?

Geez, grow up some of you and relax. It just seems too easy to bait you into repeating the same behaviors that you claim you come here to "laugh at me" for doing....so, whatever!!!!

On another note, I haven't heard from him in a week, so it's all good now I threatened to go to the police and showed several other people a few of the emails....he knows the heat is on him. But, he still works actively to sabotage what I do at work but it's okay, karma will deal with him.

I just can't help it as I am clearly in love with you as well.

SeventeenDayze said:

JustErin said:

Ottensen obviously hates you which means she obviously is in love with you.

If you keep coming back to complain, you're an idiot plain and simple?

Is this normal for you? Something is "terrible" so you keep returning to it, like a dog to it's own vomit? Don't you have a life beyond being critical of posts from total strangers?

Geez, grow up some of you and relax. It just seems too easy to bait you into repeating the same behaviors that you claim you come here to "laugh at me" for doing....so, whatever!!!!

On another note, I haven't heard from him in a week, so it's all good now I threatened to go to the police and showed several other people a few of the emails....he knows the heat is on him. But, he still works actively to sabotage what I do at work but it's okay, karma will deal with him.

Why do you always act like you got sand in your vagina?

MacDaddy said:

SeventeenDayze said:

If you keep coming back to complain, you're an idiot plain and simple?

Is this normal for you? Something is "terrible" so you keep returning to it, like a dog to it's own vomit? Don't you have a life beyond being critical of posts from total strangers?

Geez, grow up some of you and relax. It just seems too easy to bait you into repeating the same behaviors that you claim you come here to "laugh at me" for doing....so, whatever!!!!

On another note, I haven't heard from him in a week, so it's all good now I threatened to go to the police and showed several other people a few of the emails....he knows the heat is on him. But, he still works actively to sabotage what I do at work but it's okay, karma will deal with him.

Why do you always act like you got sand in your vagina?

I wonder if one cold make a pearl..

tinaz said:

MacDaddy said:

Why do you always act like you got sand in your vagina?

I wonder if one could make a pearl..

If anyone one could, you could Tinaz.

(Yeah, you should work on that.)

tinaz said:

MacDaddy said:

Why do you always act like you got sand in your vagina?

I wonder if one cold make a pearl..

Tinaz always makes me choke on my coffee

Someone told me this guy was drinking and drugging himself heavily when not at work or school. We do volunteer work together so of course not everyone sees each other everyday but we all communicate daily.

Even though he hates me, I'm worried sick about him.

I got in contact with one of his professors and sent another email to another place that I think could contact his parents since I don't have their contact info and they live out of state. I sent it via an anonymous email so that it wouldn't seem malicious, I am really worried about him because he doesn't look well at all and he needs help.

A few months ago, before he and I started feuding, he told me he didn't want to live anymore, it was rough and we talked a few hours. His so-called friends around him are dirtbags...they just hang out with him because he's always paying the tab, not charging the roommates for rent, etc. in exchange for their company. A few weeks ago one of his so-called close friends was telling me that he misleads the guy into thinking that they are closer friends than they really are and he also said that he felt the dude was suicidal but laughed it off....yes, he laughed it off. The guy who laughed it off is a real scumbag, from what many other people have told me.

I hope he does well, I'm worried about him for real.

SeventeenDayze said:

Someone told me this guy was drinking and drugging himself heavily when not at work or school. We do volunteer work together so of course not everyone sees each other everyday but we all communicate daily.

Even though he hates me, I'm worried sick about him.

I got in contact with one of his professors and sent another email to another place that I think could contact his parents since I don't have their contact info and they live out of state. I sent it via an anonymous email so that it wouldn't seem malicious, I am really worried about him because he doesn't look well at all and he needs help.

A few months ago, before he and I started feuding, he told me he didn't want to live anymore, it was rough and we talked a few hours. His so-called friends around him are dirtbags...they just hang out with him because he's always paying the tab, not charging the roommates for rent, etc. in exchange for their company. A few weeks ago one of his so-called close friends was telling me that he misleads the guy into thinking that they are closer friends than they really are and he also said that he felt the dude was suicidal but laughed it off....yes, he laughed it off. The guy who laughed it off is a real scumbag, from what many other people have told me.

I hope he does well, I'm worried about him for real.

Wait... you went to someone's professors and parents about something you heard as gossip without getting the truth from the source first?

Are you trying to help him or destroy his life? Why didn't you go to him forst and ask if he needed help first? How could you even think you could go to someone's parents if you claim to not be cool with this person?

OMG! This person may just kill himself if he is kicked out of school and his parents rush him in the wrong way about such damaging information that may not be accurate at all.

To go from a volunteer to drug abuser with suicidal tendencies is just... well, you must be SURE SURE SURE before you start pushing panic buttons!

Now, let me back up...

you need to fill us all in on how a person you only text/email, only flirt with

goes to you knowing such inimate details and have access to professors and family...

most guys do not want you contacting family members unless you have met them first

otherwise its a violation....

SeventeenDayze said:

Do you guys think it's possible that sometime a guy can hate a woman because he loves her? Are there just some guys who cannot deal with their feelings like that? I know a guy who tells me and others how much he can't stand me but everytime I look up he's starting at me and then looks away!

Lawd..this thread is still going.

So now you find out the poor man is battling demons?

If for no one else, do him and yourself a favour. Take a step back...and reevaluate the situation.

You knew this guy had suicidal tendencies....when you decided to have this lovingly hateful relationship with him?

Dear God...

paintedlady said:

Now, let me back up...

you need to fill us all in on how a person you only text/email, only flirt with

goes to you knowing such inimate details and have access to professors and family...

most guys do not want you contacting family members unless you have met them first

otherwise its a violation....

Please, don't point out the inconsistencies in this yarn. You'll ruin the social experiment.

Pomade said:

paintedlady said:

Now, let me back up...

you need to fill us all in on how a person you only text/email, only flirt with

goes to you knowing such inimate details and have access to professors and family...

most guys do not want you contacting family members unless you have met them first

otherwise its a violation....

Please, don't point out the inconsistencies in this yarn. You'll ruin the social experiment.

Whoa, hang on a sec everyone! Yes, before we had the huge fallout he was wrestling with those thoughts before. I helped him when I could but then all this other stuff happened. He's around some really awful people.

And um, yes someone very close to him (but who isn't on speaking terms with him now) said that the dude was drinking heavily and using drugs, so the email sent to the professor and to another person who might have his parents contact info acknowledged that and just said perhaps they should check on him. Dude has serious issues going on now. Just because he and I bickered in the past that's one thing but when I heard about this other stuff, then his erradic behavior started to make sense.

Dang folks, better safe than sorry!!!!! It's either him killing himself or me looking like an idiot...so be it, if that means he gets help.

you people CANT be this heartless right? His so-called friends use him for money the laugh while he's obviously in pain, it's really F'd up, trust me.

Pomade said:

paintedlady said:

Now, let me back up...

you need to fill us all in on how a person you only text/email, only flirt with

goes to you knowing such inimate details and have access to professors and family...

most guys do not want you contacting family members unless you have met them first

otherwise its a violation....

Please, don't point out the inconsistencies in this yarn. You'll ruin the social experiment.

I really don't know what to make of all of this. It boggles the mind.

Ottensen said:

Pomade said:

Please, don't point out the inconsistencies in this yarn. You'll ruin the social experiment.

I really don't know what to make of all of this. It boggles the mind.

Yeah, it's complicated.

What's messed up about it is that the person who mentioned this to me had a fallout with this guy but when she found out that I was concerned about him she basically distanced herself from me big time. It was weird. She has a boyfriend already so no idea why she's acting jealous. I didn't realize that admitting to her that I was worried about him (and care about him) would make her suddenly act jealous.

So, I've been texting him to make sure he's okay. I told him I'd text him every hour on the hour to make sure he's okay. I know he's getting the messages because a so-called friend of his who likes to bug me sent me messages repeating some of the stuff I was saying...I don't care. This guy might be fooling others but he's really messed up right now. He denied it before but I wasn't buying it and now that I've heard this, it makes sense why he was acting so weird the past few months...

Fortunately, the real world hasn't robbed me of my big heart....

SeventeenDayze said:

Ottensen said:

I really don't know what to make of all of this. It boggles the mind.

Yeah, it's complicated.

What's messed up about it is that the person who mentioned this to me had a fallout with this guy but when she found out that I was concerned about him she basically distanced herself from me big time. It was weird. She has a boyfriend already so no idea why she's acting jealous. I didn't realize that admitting to her that I was worried about him (and care about him) would make her suddenly act jealous.

So, I've been texting him to make sure he's okay. I told him I'd text him every hour on the hour to make sure he's okay. I know he's getting the messages because a so-called friend of his who likes to bug me sent me messages repeating some of the stuff I was saying...I don't care. This guy might be fooling others but he's really messed up right now. He denied it before but I wasn't buying it and now that I've heard this, it makes sense why he was acting so weird the past few months...

Fortunately, the real world hasn't robbed me of my big heart....

Buuuutttttt hes not answering, sooooooo how does that let you know he's ok?????

Got this out of a different thread.... Maybe you should read it... Cuz chances are, were gonna be reading those messages all to soon!

http://www.buzzfeed.com/h...-messaging

tinaz said:

SeventeenDayze said:

Yeah, it's complicated.

What's messed up about it is that the person who mentioned this to me had a fallout with this guy but when she found out that I was concerned about him she basically distanced herself from me big time. It was weird. She has a boyfriend already so no idea why she's acting jealous. I didn't realize that admitting to her that I was worried about him (and care about him) would make her suddenly act jealous.

So, I've been texting him to make sure he's okay. I told him I'd text him every hour on the hour to make sure he's okay. I know he's getting the messages because a so-called friend of his who likes to bug me sent me messages repeating some of the stuff I was saying...I don't care. This guy might be fooling others but he's really messed up right now. He denied it before but I wasn't buying it and now that I've heard this, it makes sense why he was acting so weird the past few months...

Fortunately, the real world hasn't robbed me of my big heart....

Buuuutttttt hes not answering, sooooooo how does that let you know he's ok?????

Yeah I guess what I meant was...I text him that frequently to let him know that someone out there cares. Over the past several weeks, people have been saying stuff about him that makes me think all of his friends ditched him and I've seen it for myself. They basically just use him because he buys people stuff and just wants their attention.He's an only child and most of us know how he feels lonely a lot, so that's why he hasn't blocked my number from his phone. He always threatened to block my number but he never does. His friends are callous, bloodsuckers though who have dropped him during this serious crisis. Oh and he's never bought me anything and I've never asked him to, so I'm not part of that crew at all.

One of his so-called friends sent me a text making fun of me for being concerned and even "joked" about his friend being suicidal, this guy is a known A-hole to everyone and nobody understands how this guy can be friends with someone like that....that's why I worry about him. This dude's so-called friend does a lot of reckless behavior and is encouraging this... it's sad and that's why I worry so much.

The girl who got jealous immediately wanted to know if I was in a relationship with the suicidal guy, rather than actually being concerned for his well-being....just gives you an idea of the folks who are his "friends"...

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[Edited 2/25/12 7:29am]

ThruTheEyesOfWonder said:

Lawd..this thread is still going.

So now you find out the poor man is battling demons?

If for no one else, do him and yourself a favour. Take a step back...and reevaluate the situation.

You knew this guy had suicidal tendencies....when you decided to have this lovingly hateful relationship with him?

Dear God...

Pray for her

angel345 said:

ThruTheEyesOfWonder said:

Lawd..this thread is still going.

So now you find out the poor man is battling demons?

If for no one else, do him and yourself a favour. Take a step back...and reevaluate the situation.

You knew this guy had suicidal tendencies....when you decided to have this lovingly hateful relationship with him?

Dear God...

Pray for her

Yeah please DO pray for me....nobody takes stuff seriously until it's too late (i.e. Don Cornelius and Whitney Houston)