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Thread started 02/05/12 8:42am

SeventeenDayze

Can a guy hate you because he's in love with you?

Do you guys think it's possible that sometime a guy can hate a woman because he loves her? Are there just some guys who cannot deal with their feelings like that? I know a guy who tells me and others how much he can't stand me but everytime I look up he's starting at me and then looks away!

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Reply #1 posted 02/05/12 8:45am

MacDaddy

It's an ehh..age-related thing.

You'll grow out of it

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Reply #2 posted 02/05/12 8:47am

Lammastide

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I think we throw around the L word a bit too freely these days. But it's absolutely true that ardor and hatred are kissing cousins, I believe.

"Be excellent to each other." -Bill and Ted
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Reply #3 posted 02/05/12 8:52am

SeventeenDayze

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I think we throw around the L word a bit too freely these days. But it's absolutely true that ardor and hatred are kissing cousins, I believe.

It's just weird, he talks bad about me to everyone , rips me to shreds on the internet for everyone to see but then stares at me like a deer in headlights and then looks away when I catch him...just weird!

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Reply #4 posted 02/05/12 9:05am

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SeventeenDayze said:

Lammastide said:

I think we throw around the L word a bit too freely these days. But it's absolutely true that ardor and hatred are kissing cousins, I believe.

It's just weird, he talks bad about me to everyone , rips me to shreds on the internet for everyone to see but then stares at me like a deer in headlights and then looks away when I catch him...just weird!

So many of us struggle through this silliness.

In the way of advice, I'd say be aware of any realistic threat he poses, but don't let it distract you from giving attention to friends and suitors who actually know how to show appreciation and truly deserve your energy.

[Edited 2/5/12 9:12am]

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Reply #5 posted 02/05/12 9:10am

Cuddles

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Reply #6 posted 02/05/12 9:14am

PunkMistress

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SeventeenDayze said:

Do you guys think it's possible that sometime a guy can hate a woman because he loves her? Are there just some guys who cannot deal with their feelings like that? I know a guy who tells me and others how much he can't stand me but everytime I look up he's starting at me and then looks away!

Okay, this thread does it.

You are either a very silly girl, or a troll.

hmm

It's what you make it.
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Reply #7 posted 02/05/12 9:34am

SeventeenDayze

PunkMistress said:

SeventeenDayze said:

Do you guys think it's possible that sometime a guy can hate a woman because he loves her? Are there just some guys who cannot deal with their feelings like that? I know a guy who tells me and others how much he can't stand me but everytime I look up he's starting at me and then looks away!

Okay, this thread does it.

You are either a very silly girl, or a troll.

hmm

Why do you even bother writing here if you're annoyed?

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Reply #8 posted 02/05/12 9:42am

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i come here when i want my farts to feel relevant.

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Reply #9 posted 02/05/12 9:58am

Efan

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If this thread brought Cuddles back, it's totally worth it.

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Reply #10 posted 02/05/12 10:24am

PunkMistress

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Efan said:

If this thread brought Cuddles back, it's totally worth it.

It's what you make it.
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Reply #11 posted 02/05/12 10:37am

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SeventeenDayze said:

Do you guys think it's possible that sometime a guy can hate a woman because he loves her? Are there just some guys who cannot deal with their feelings like that? I know a guy who tells me and others how much he can't stand me but everytime I look up he's starting at me and then looks away!

I don't think it's a weird question, especially if you're young.

Honestly? Yeah - guys sometimes do that.

And...thread-hijackkkk!!!! http://www.youtube.com/wa...aoLU6zKaws

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Reply #12 posted 02/05/12 10:56am

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Honey, we are men! We are complex beings capable of all manner of juxtapositions! We can bend the laws of pyshics. Just this morning, I ordered an extra large pepsi in an extra small cup.

I can hate you while loving you.

I have also been known to pay unfaltering attention to you while intensely ignoring you.

So the short answer is, yes.

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Reply #13 posted 02/05/12 11:16am

SeventeenDayze

imago said:

Honey, we are men! We are complex beings capable of all manner of juxtapositions! We can bend the laws of pyshics. Just this morning, I ordered an extra large pepsi in an extra small cup.

I can hate you while loving you.

I have also been known to pay unfaltering attention to you while intensely ignoring you.

So the short answer is, yes.

I'm just sick of it though because he puts all this energy into all this nonsense and he could just as easily come correct and be real about how he feels. Just seems like a huge waste of time for him to act like he hates me when he clearly wants me at the same time....

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Reply #14 posted 02/05/12 11:25am

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imago said:

Honey, we are men! We are complex beings capable of all manner of juxtapositions! We can bend the laws of pyshics. Just this morning, I ordered an extra large pepsi in an extra small cup.

I can hate you while loving you.

I have also been known to pay unfaltering attention to you while intensely ignoring you.

So the short answer is, yes.


Yes, men are complex beings.
And so are women.
In the end, I guess it can be concluded that all people are complex beings.
Which, if that puts all of us on the same level, means that, compared to each other, we're not that complex at all.

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Reply #15 posted 02/05/12 12:13pm

ThruTheEyesOfW
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Another boy trouble thread??

ALright here goes...

Girl, mature men don't do that. How old is this guy?

When men are younger, yeah they'll tease you and perhaps border on mean, or in extreme cases be downright mean. In any case, if they do love the girl, they have to own up to those feelings eventually and begin to act better once their fear of rejection is nullified.

But really, why do you care if this guy likes you or not? If he's being an asshole, that might be indicative of a character flaw. Even if he likes you, he might have some issues if this is the way he treats a girl he likes and doesn't change. The guy better be a teenager or a guy in his early 20's is all I'm sayin'...

The salvation of man is through love and in love. - Dr. V. Frankl

"When you close your heart, you close your mind." - Michael Jackson (Man In The Mirror)

"I don't need anger management, I need people to stop pissing me off" lol
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Reply #16 posted 02/05/12 12:13pm

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Visionnaire said:

imago said:

Honey, we are men! We are complex beings capable of all manner of juxtapositions! We can bend the laws of pyshics. Just this morning, I ordered an extra large pepsi in an extra small cup.

I can hate you while loving you.

I have also been known to pay unfaltering attention to you while intensely ignoring you.

So the short answer is, yes.


Yes, men are complex beings.
And so are women.
In the end, I guess it can be concluded that all people are complex beings.
Which, if that puts all of us on the same level, means that, compared to each other, we're not that complex at all.

We're worthless slugs who spend most of our time overestimating our own importance.

It's what you make it.
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Reply #17 posted 02/05/12 12:31pm

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Cuddles said:

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Exactly.

And...

Hi, I missed you.

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Reply #18 posted 02/05/12 1:53pm

Visionnaire

PunkMistress said:

Visionnaire said:


Yes, men are complex beings.
And so are women.
In the end, I guess it can be concluded that all people are complex beings.
Which, if that puts all of us on the same level, means that, compared to each other, we're not that complex at all.

We're worthless slugs who spend most of our time overestimating our own importance.


Preach.

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Reply #19 posted 02/05/12 2:17pm

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SeventeenDayze said:

Do you guys think it's possible that sometime a guy can hate a woman because he loves her? Are there just some guys who cannot deal with their feelings like that? I know a guy who tells me and others how much he can't stand me but everytime I look up he's starting at me and then looks away!

only if he's not gotten over his first 4th grade heartbreak! beware of words directed towards you that are negative in content. as far as the stare, he'll stop looking at you if you stop looking at him.

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Reply #20 posted 02/05/12 2:21pm

duccichucka

To answer the question:

Yes. Hate is nothing but being furious at oneself for loving another furiously.

An honest religious thinker is like a tightrope walker. He almost looks as though he were walking on nothing but air. His support is the slenderest imaginable. And yet it really is possible to walk on it.

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Reply #21 posted 02/05/12 2:51pm

MachT

PunkMistress said:

We're worthless slugs who spend most of our time overestimating our own importance.

mushy

Marry me !

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Reply #22 posted 02/05/12 3:57pm

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duccichucka said:

To answer the question:

Yes. Hate is nothing but being furious at oneself for loving another furiously.

What? That's not true. lol

"You put water into a cup, it becomes the cup...Now water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend." - Bruce Lee
"Water can nourish me, but water can also carry me. Water has magic laws." - JCVD
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Reply #23 posted 02/05/12 5:21pm

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SeventeenDayze said:

imago said:

Honey, we are men! We are complex beings capable of all manner of juxtapositions! We can bend the laws of pyshics. Just this morning, I ordered an extra large pepsi in an extra small cup.

I can hate you while loving you.

I have also been known to pay unfaltering attention to you while intensely ignoring you.

So the short answer is, yes.

I'm just sick of it though because he puts all this energy into all this nonsense and he could just as easily come correct and be real about how he feels. Just seems like a huge waste of time for him to act like he hates me when he clearly wants me at the same time....

People do things that don't make sense all the time - an example is all the people who came in here purely to shit on you when, if they think the thread is dumb, they could've easily bypassed it. lol

Honestly - human emotions aren't that one-note. It's entirely possible for someone, male or female, to feel conflicting emotions about one person. I know I've been there myself tons of times, and not just in a romantic context. People aren't that simplistic - or at least I hope most people aren't.

And yeah, I'm sure Imago was taking the piss with the ignoring comment, but honestly people do that. I've done it myself - act like I'm ignoring someone and like I don't give a shit, when I clearly do. And I've seen others do it too so I know it does happen.

Love and hate aren't all that divorced from one another as people seem to think it would be.

What should you do about it though? Nothing. You can give some indication that you care for him, if you do, then after that just leave it be and go about your life. If he decides that he wants to reach out to you, he will.

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Reply #24 posted 02/05/12 5:40pm

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WaterInYourBath said:

duccichucka said:

To answer the question:

Yes. Hate is nothing but being furious at oneself for loving another furiously.

What? That's not true. lol

not in the general sense I would also disagree, but it quite suits this particular situation it kind of makes sense.

I think some people feel out of control when their emotions get hijacked and blame the object of their obsession who is just an innocent bystander!

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Reply #25 posted 02/05/12 6:48pm

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Reply #26 posted 02/05/12 6:48pm

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yes, I was crazy in love with a guy...he didn't really know it, but realized my constant goofy smiling and staring. He was too beautiful for me. He drove me nuts( in a good way) and I hated him for that...love and hate.

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Reply #27 posted 02/05/12 7:06pm

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I don't know about y'all, but when I like someone, it shows.

When I don't like someone...it shows, too (unfortunately).

Never hated anyone, though.

Honey, stop talking and just create the music.
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Reply #28 posted 02/05/12 7:17pm

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SeventeenDayze said:

Do you guys think it's possible that sometime a guy can hate a woman because he loves her? Are there just some guys who cannot deal with their feelings like that? I know a guy who tells me and others how much he can't stand me but everytime I look up he's starting at me and then looks away!

NO, I don't. What he feels are doesn't isn't your concern, that's his issue. Keep it moving. smile

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Reply #29 posted 02/05/12 7:35pm

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If he's talking trash about you at all, then how the HELL do you figure he's in love with you?

Where did you make the leap that if he stares at you then he must "be in love"???

WTF?

Honestly you know what this scenario sounds like...I'll tell you.

Folks are talking about you... it could be about your attitude/body/attitire... which he seemily does NOT like...

then he looks at you laughing quietly at himself because of all the wise cracks that were shared to him AND BY HIM at YOUR expense...

he could be thinking :oofph... is that where that smell is coming from??... her shit's rotten!:

and you're the silly one thinking :Oooo look at him looking! I think he loves me!!!:

disbelief

You would be foolish to get into any relationship with him... and please stop trolling for dick at your workplace, its bad form.


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