damn.

just get through it, that's the best I got.

Two questions, amigo:

What would peace in your life look like or entail?

At what point does peace become more important than your present situation?

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I couldnt be no shytty ex, that why he stills does what he can i guess....i cant pretend i didnt love him all those years, and it wasnt from my heart that i put up with that shyt....i just knownot to trust that big bitch, as far as i can throw him.....

oh yeah, i dont have to throw him cause he gonna lie, steal and walk away anyhow......

myfavorite said:

I couldnt be no shytty ex, that why he stills does what he can i guess....i cant pretend i didnt love him all those years, and it wasnt from my heart that i put up with that shyt....i just knownot to trust that big bitch, as far as i can throw him.....

oh yeah, i dont have to throw him cause he gonna lie, steal and walk away anyhow......

^^^That shit right there is what gives me ulcers at night.

ThreadBare said:

Two questions, amigo:

What would peace in your life look like or entail?

At what point does peace become more important than your present situation?

[Edited 8/15/11 22:01pm]

i think the right thing for me is to put my 3 year old daughter before any of my needs...so thats what i will do...their may come a point that i cant carry on but i must keep going for her sake...she needs me....my 12 year old son is more independant now but i would like to think he still needs me now and then...i certainly need to see him once or twice a month to be happy...

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their is no easy answer to this but thanks for caring enough to reply.. ...lots of people have far worse problems than me so trying to look on the bright side...

u r 2 nice 2 them, so u r an easy target... i know because that's how it's like 4 me

blackbob said:

ThreadBare said:

Two questions, amigo:

What would peace in your life look like or entail?

At what point does peace become more important than your present situation?

[Edited 8/15/11 22:01pm]

i think the right thing for me is to put my 3 year old daughter before any of my needs...so thats what i will do...their may come a point that i cant carry on but i must keep going for her sake...she needs me....my 12 year old son is more independant now but i would like to think he still needs me now and then...i certainly need to see him once or twice a month to be happy...

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their is no easy answer to this but thanks for caring enough to reply.. ...lots of people have far worse problems than me so trying to look on the bright side...

first part, OFCOURSE he still needs you, perhaps more now than EVER.

sencond part....ONCE or TWICE a month!?!?!? ugh....

blackbob said:

I would like to have him live with me but its not possible so twice a month is all I can see him due to work commitments ....

Aw wow. Poor fella. Man that's gotta be some resentment brewing in the future. You got one kid that has you all the time and another kid (a son) who only sees you 2 x a month. Damn, that's ony 6 times a year.

Not trying to make you feel bad but I sympathize with the kid. My parents divorced when I was small but I had older brother and step daddy to sort of take papi's place. Does your ex by chance have a new and suitable boyfriend who can fill in the gaps when ur not there to be with your son? At least that way he would have a full time father figure. If she's single, maybe you could introduce her to someone.

gawd it's enough to make u wanna pack it all in & live on benefits

HotGritz said:

blackbob said:

I would like to have him live with me but its not possible so twice a month is all I can see him due to work commitments ....

Aw wow. Poor fella. Man that's gotta be some resentment brewing in the future. You got one kid that has you all the time and another kid (a son) who only sees you 2 x a month. Damn, that's ony 6 times a year.

Not trying to make you feel bad but I sympathize with the kid. My parents divorced when I was small but I had older brother and step daddy to sort of take papi's place. Does your ex by chance have a new and suitable boyfriend who can fill in the gaps when ur not there to be with your son? At least that way he would have a full time father figure. If she's single, maybe you could introduce her to someone.

ThreadBare said:

HotGritz said:

Aw wow. Poor fella. Man that's gotta be some resentment brewing in the future. You got one kid that has you all the time and another kid (a son) who only sees you 2 x a month. Damn, that's ony 6 times a year.

Not trying to make you feel bad but I sympathize with the kid. My parents divorced when I was small but I had older brother and step daddy to sort of take papi's place. Does your ex by chance have a new and suitable boyfriend who can fill in the gaps when ur not there to be with your son? At least that way he would have a full time father figure. If she's single, maybe you could introduce her to someone.

I read it as every 2 months. I meant to edit it but then I said "eh whatevs, not like it sounds any better."

why does quality time have to involve hundreds of pounds? is there really nothing else you guys can do together? And I know at this age you are totally uncool for him

take him and his mates to the cinema, is there a lazer zone near you?..I know my boys love this stuff

fuck my ex....that bitch lied, covered lies, had other people lie....fuck the entire system as far as im concerned. i was more than a good wife to that gutter bitch.

AND do you know what else???

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myfavorite said:

fuck my ex....that bitch lied, covered lies, had other people lie....fuck the entire system as far as im concerned. i was more than a good wife to that gutter bitch.

AND do you know what else???

NO...what else?

ZombieKitten said:

why does quality time have to involve hundreds of pounds? is there really nothing else you guys can do together? And I know at this age you are totally uncool for him

yes we do lots of things together..i was just using the fact that i was away for a few days with my son and spent money on him then i come back and my ex is asking me for more money...!.....i only have soo much like most people...its just never ending sometimes..

is it a good idea to follow people if you say they are making you sick??? im just sayin...

blackbob said:

my girlfriend is moaning about working all day then watching our hyperactive 3 year old all night...' where is the life? ' she was shouting at me...then this morning i get my usual texts from my ex telling me i aint giving her enough money for my 12 year old son and i aint spending enough time with him ( funnily enough..my girlfriend says the same to me ).....then telling me i aint seeing him again...i just took my son away for a few days last week to an amusement park and spend hundreds of pounds on him...all the while worrying about having to pay the mortgage and working shifts and watching my little 3 year old daughter during the day before going to work at night...

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as i write this...my 3 year old daughter is climbing all over me ...

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i just have one question...

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is time travel possible... ...

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-My heart goes out to you Bob.

-I was reading your post and I almost wanted to cry.

-BOTH those kids NEED YOU, very much.

-Your son needs you more because soon, he will become a young man,

-and all boys need good, positive male role models to grow up into something,

-productive in society today.

-Last thing you need is your son to grow up and become the leader,

-of somekind Cartel or gang. BE THERE FOR YOUR SON!

-Your baby girl needs you too because she is daddy's girl and,

-little girls ALSO need good and postive male influences,

-in their lives.

-People should be very careful whom they have children with.

-Sometimes both the mom and dad are good people,

-but they can't get along for shit in the world.

-That is when it is time to talk things out and try to reach,

-agreements for the CHILDREN'S sake.

-When people have children, right there your personal life stops,

-because it is not about parent anymore, it is about the children.

-Getting the court involved in your business is hard, trumatic at times but,

-sometimes it is the best solution. For the CHILDREN.

-Bob, I wish for the best in this delicate situation,

-I could just say pray about, it works for me, but that is,

-your personal choice.

-God bless you and your kids, the mamas too,

and may you find the strength to cope and find a postive,

-solution that can benefit everyone.

i dont know about bob, but most men wanna settle where they can find some good ass and a meal, sweet, money, game, intellect has very little to do...infact the lack is what usually causes the rift. they need to consider what they really need for themselves. .....:rollineyes: