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I tell people I don't want kids and they look at me crazy... I tell people that me and my wife choose not to have kids..... and people look at me all crazy:-o . Some people just quickly judge us that we are bad people or something because we don't want kids. I really like kids, but with my busy lifestyle I don't feel that I have the time to raise kids. I don't want to have kids if I can't give it a 100%. I just don't know why people don't understand? People seemed to be so rude about the subject. I'm able to have kids... I just don't want them at this point in my life. I think it is ok not to want kids. Does anybody else on the org have the same problem? | |
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I never wanted kids in my life and thank God not too many people judged me for that. However my ex-bf and his parents wanted me to have a child and that was hard as I felt guilty for not giving them something that would make them so very happy . My current bf would love to have another child too (he has 2 from a previuos relationship), so that might turn into a problem one day too.... With a very special thank you to Tina: Is hammer already absolute, how much some people verändern...ICH hope is never so I will be! And if, then I hope that I would then have wen in my environment who joins me in the A.... | |
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I know it has to be really tough for a women. Some people act like how can a woman not a child. This is something my wife has to deal with all the time. | |
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Yeah, I always think people can be real assholes about this. Personally I'd like to have kids, but it's amazing to me how rude ppl can be about folks who choose not to. MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!! | |
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I have a good friend from college that she is unable to have a child and she is currently destroyed. Her and her husband had fertility testing and it is her that can't have a baby. I don't know what to say to her? | |
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jaimestarr79 said: I know it has to be really tough for a women. Some people act like how can a woman not a child. This is something my wife has to deal with all the time. I always hear what wonderful mom I would make because of how great I get along with kids and because of how much my niece always loved to spend summer with me and my ex. Still it is my own choice and not the business of everybody else. With a very special thank you to Tina: Is hammer already absolute, how much some people verändern...ICH hope is never so I will be! And if, then I hope that I would then have wen in my environment who joins me in the A.... | |
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i don't want kids and i couldn't care less what anyone thinks about it. everyone's a fruit & nut case | |
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Those people should mind their own business So many people have kids not being ready and the kids are the ones who suffer. I have one daughter and people are always amazed I only have one and wonder why I didn't ever have more! If I ever have another child I would want to spend a lot of time with them, not be working all day and only get to see them a few hours. Rhythm floods my heart♥The melody it feeds my soul | |
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whistle said: i don't want kids and i couldn't care less what anyone thinks about it. I only care what people think about it who are directly affected. With a very special thank you to Tina: Is hammer already absolute, how much some people verändern...ICH hope is never so I will be! And if, then I hope that I would then have wen in my environment who joins me in the A.... | |
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I understand. Heck, I've got a kid, but people look at me all crazy when I say I don't want another! Actually... I'd like another, but I'd rather adopt.
In any case, having a kid is a big personal decision. Doesn't much matter what others think. Ὅσον ζῇς φαίνου
μηδὲν ὅλως σὺ λυποῦ πρὸς ὀλίγον ἐστὶ τὸ ζῆν τὸ τέλος ὁ χρόνος ἀπαιτεῖ.” | |
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i'll go this thread one further: i don't particularly like children. there, i said it. i don't hate them or feel the need to be rude to them, but i prefer the company of adults. everyone's a fruit & nut case | |
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whistle said: i'll go this thread one further: i don't particularly like children. there, i said it. i don't hate them or feel the need to be rude to them, but i prefer the company of adults. Well thank God you don't have any then. With a very special thank you to Tina: Is hammer already absolute, how much some people verändern...ICH hope is never so I will be! And if, then I hope that I would then have wen in my environment who joins me in the A.... | |
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i'm sure having them would change me. i reckon there are loads of parents who used to get ill at the thought of having kids, but they grew into it. everyone's a fruit & nut case | |
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Ex-Moderator | I am someone who has never wanted kids. I went through a phase around age 28-30 where I had irrational pangs of wanting one even though I was in no position to have one but that was really just hormonal, I think.
I don’t recall that anyone has ever looked down on me for it, though. I have had a few ask questions and clearly fiound it unusual that I wouldn’t want one as a woman, but I didn’t feel any judgment, at least not too badly.
I’m worried about it being a sore subject with my bf. He wants kids, I don’t. We’ve talked about it numerous times and I’ve told him there’s a 2% chance I could change my mind but mostly I think it’s not in my future. And he’s free to leave me and find someone to have a baby with if that’s what he really wants. I think I’m too old. I’ll be 36 in June and we have a ways to go before we’d be ready for something like that (if ever). |
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I think many people feel obligated to have kids as soon as they marry. There is so much pressure from parents, grandparents, family, friends, etc. I think too often people have kids when they are not mentally and financially ready to have them. That's why alot of these kids are off the chain and out of control because their parents weren't prepared to raise them properly. People don't realize the commitment in raising a child not to mention the financial cost. Alot of people can't afford to take care of themselves let alone themselves + a child. And once you have one...people often feel obligated to have more than one child so the single child won't grow up by itself. | |
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I adore my little nephews but I'll be damned if I want a kid.
perhaps one girl and one boy when I'm 38-42... but right now : | |
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I've been getting that since the fifth grade. I knew then I didn't want any children. It wasn't connected to being gay either. I didn't see that as a reason I wouldn't or couldn't have children. Sitting around with friends discussing how many children we wanted when we grew up, I was the only one who said none. There are days when I wish I was a father, but it always passes. I used to be under a lot of pressure because of a particular feature to have children, but seeing as their was/is no guarantee that a child would inherit a specific feature, I saw no reason to try for one to please others. I do like children, just never wanted any of my own. I don't want you to think like me. I just want you to think. | |
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Any home can be full of love and commapssion with or without children... great families can come in all forms.
Sometimes people just get too stuck on themselves and like to judge others to feel better about their own situation, they use any means to do it. | |
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I understand that. That doesn't make you a bad person. Children can be taxing.
I love playing with children, I seem to be a natural, even as an adult.
I was with my partner at a friend's house for Thanksgiving, playing with their 3 young boys running around the house with them. Their mother finally screamed at me (!) to stop it and everyone burst out laughing. These boys were having a great time and just started getting loud with that screaming/laughing thing. Shw was wondering what had her boys going like that -and of course, running through the house. I was in my mid-20's at the time. My nieces and nephews same way. I have a nephew who is an only boy, so whenever I visited I would play just with him for a couple of hours, roughousing. Picking him up and throwing him on the couch. He loved it. He couldn't wrestle or anything with his sisters. Of course for the rest of my visit, he just wanted me to play with him. I don't want you to think like me. I just want you to think. | |
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I'll probably never be a parent in my lifetime...and that's cool with me. | |
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you're like a father to me, man
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How do these people know you don't want kids in the first place?
If their reaction bothers you, the solution is simple - don't tell them. We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves. | |
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They tend to keep asking. I don't want you to think like me. I just want you to think. | |
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yep, that question and "why are you still single", or "why you don't wanna get married"? | |
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The fact that they ask does not mean one is obligated to answer. We don’t mourn artists because we knew them. We mourn them because they helped us know ourselves. | |
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True, but that's awkward. I don't want you to think like me. I just want you to think. | |
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I'm a single Mom and don't want another...especially in this world of TODAY....FUCK NO!
If you don't want children then so be, your decision keep it moving! "A Man Can't Ride Your Back Unless It's Bent" MLK 4/3/68 | |
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It shouldn't be.
Asking deeply personal, noneofyerbusiness questions like, "When are you going to have children?" is rude. People who do that don't deserve an answer.
I refer you to Ann Landers's Golden Rules for Living...specifically, number 12.
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lol...
I want babies. Hell, that's something I look forward to. But finding the right guy..
Oh well, I keep gettin' asked "Why you still single?", "Why don't you have a man?", or the more unusual question some dumbass woman asked my father "did you sell her into marriage yet?!"
Mutha...
I nearly slapped her for that. The salvation of man is through love and in love. - Dr. V. Frankl
"When you close your heart, you close your mind." - Michael Jackson (Man In The Mirror) "I don't need anger management, I need people to stop pissing me off" | |
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