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How true is this statement? "You don't always get to marry the true love of your life".
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It's probably always true. Once you live with that person and discover that their status is not God but human, well....
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Ex-Moderator | If by “you” you mean the collective world, well, of course it’s true. There are all kinds of people who don’t get to marry the love of their life. Plenty of gay Americans don’t, for example.
And it depends on your definition of “true love” too. I don’t believe that there’s only one person “meant” for another. I think a person can have all kinds of true love – many relationships over a lifetime where love is concerned.
I think the point of the statement, though, is that many people “settle”. They decide they want a spouse and/or children and the person they are with may not be their end-all, be-all ultimate soulmate but is “good enough” and maybe they are offered some kind of security (emotional, financial, etc.) so they go with it. I think that’s probably true for plenty of people. I also think there’s nothing wrong with that if it’s what makes someone happy.
Personally, I’m plenty happy on my own. If it’s not the right relationship, I’m not going to bother, even in the short-term. So if it doesn’t work out with my current beau, there’s a good possibility I’ll never get married. By choice. |
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eh, I don't know, I have have more than one true love, and probably could have married them if I wanted to
But I do believe we have people in our past that we will always think about and wonder what if My Legacy
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Hell, I've never even got to blow the true love of my life, let alone marry him. Andy is a four letter word. | |
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vainandy said: Hell, I've never even got to blow the true love of my life, let alone marry him. I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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It's as true as you want to make it. In my case, I did marry the true love of my life. | |
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No one becomes a true love until you form a bond with that person and you're willing to work things out.
People make a mistake that they found someone who's a soulmate and they think there would automatically be no problems, then they think they made an excuse because they found things about the person and it makes them feel that love is just a four letter word rather than a case of reality.
Love doesn't hurt, as people wanna believe. Lies hurt and if you lie, then it's not love, it's treason. Whoever made that statement must've had their heart broke several times. | |
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Well, the statement in its logical form would be, "there exists someone who hasn't gotten to marry or won't get to marry his or her true love". That is obviously true. It would be pretty strange to insist that everyone in the world will get to marry the one they feel they love the most or in the most sincere manner.
If you meant something along the lines of "in how many cases would you estimate that people get to marry the person they consider the true love of their lives", then I wouldn't know. Maybe in 20-30%? People are pretty good at convincing themselves that the person they are currently with is the "right one". Once difficulties emerge then they'll usually state that the other person "wasn't the right one after all" etc.
The divorce percentage where I live is 60%. There must be plenty of people in the divorced ones that weren't married to their "true loves".
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true love? = true disease... | |
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it is always if not necessarily true.
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the reason it is always true and might be necessarily true (but I am doubtful that it is) is in its wording. "always" is a the on of the key words that makes it so. As it not only leaves open the possibility that one could marry the love of their life but says nothing on the relative chances of NOT being able. If any other possible outcome exists then the statement is true.
also: The fact that they love of any person's life is not always both willing or able to get married to you.
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that seems like pretty well formed explanation. I do not see any necessity but it seems that you are spot on. I also like how you say that just because a person thinks another is the love of their life they may be mistaken. It also assumes that for the statement to be true that each person is married to or will get married to the love of their life.
It would also mean that each person in a marriage that the other is the love of their life.
But this case allows for plural marriages as well.
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Saying you found your "true love" is quite a bold statement anyways if you go into it thinking that's how it's gonna be. | |
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for the reason of the truthfulness of the statement the "true love" part is not even important.
the "You don't always get to" is the part that makes the whole statement true. the rest could pretty much any other verb phrase and it would still be true.
"You don't always get to eat lunch on the moon with sponge bob square paints"
"You don't always get to voice your opinion.
"You don't always get to exercise your rights"
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Fuck the "you don't always get" and strive to get it, dig? | |
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I agree with your statement. [Edited 10/11/10 5:47am] I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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Yea.
First of all, not everybody gets married (obvs). Secondly, I think that the concept of "true love" is a faulty one. | |
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Yeah, that.
I know I 'fall in love' easily, and I could fall in love with all different types of people. But thats just the lust part of it or that I'm in love with the idea of being in love. It makes you feel good. Thats the funnest part of the relationship.
Too bad it doesn't usually last.
Loving someone is when you can learn to live together every day and in all the ups and downs that you go through in life, financial struggles, crying kids, dealing with issues of eachothers crazy ass family members, etc, even after all that shit if you can still go to bed at night content and grateful for the other person in your bed, and not wish them to die in their sleep......THATS love. I've reached in darkness and come out with treasure
I layed down with love and I woke up with lies Whats it all worth only the heart can measure It's not whats in the mirror but what's left inside | |
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I agree also. I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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I go by 'Love the one you're with" much more practical! | |
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I really don't have an answer love is already overanalyzed too many definitions some do...some don't that's all I got
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in my experience, the true love of everyone's life is themselves. everyone's a fruit & nut case | |
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