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Thread started 06/23/10 7:18am

Darwintheorgan
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Anyone else at rock bottom in their lives?

I hit rock bottom in my life about a month ago, and I have been unable to get out. About once a week things start to look up. Then, things slowly start to deteriorate again until I get back to where I am right now.

Anybody else here?

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Reply #1 posted 06/23/10 7:45am

Ace

I hit rock-bottom several years back. Thanks to a good psychiatrist, I'm happier than ever!

Have you tried therapy?

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Reply #2 posted 06/23/10 7:48am

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Darwintheorgangrinder said:

I hit rock bottom in my life about a month ago, and I have been unable to get out.

I've seen some very hard times in my life, I hope things improve for you soon. Though I would caution against claiming "rock bottom", because as bad as things may seem to you at the moment, they can always get a lot worse. Just turn on the world news and I'm sure you'll see there are many others on this planet that would trade shoes with you in a heartbeat.

However, if you are indeed at a point where things could not possibly get any worse - the good news is then that things can only improve from where you find yourself now. Feel better, keep talking, take it one day at a time (sometimes moment by moment), and don't do anything to hurt yourself.

"There's Nothing That The Proper Attitude Won't Render Funkable!"

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Reply #3 posted 06/23/10 7:49am

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i do understand what ur saying and talking about it can put u in a better place mentally

life sucks most of the time but try 2 laugh at it, i mean it can't get any worse right!

we're here if u need 2 let it all out

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Reply #4 posted 06/23/10 7:51am

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Sending positive thoughts your way pray rose hug

Hang in there. Be positive.

It's also good to talk to someone you trust.

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Reply #5 posted 06/23/10 7:51am

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PDogz said:

Darwintheorgangrinder said:

I hit rock bottom in my life about a month ago, and I have been unable to get out.

I've seen some very hard times in my life, I hope things improve for you soon. Though I would caution against claiming "rock bottom", because as bad as things may seem to you at the moment, they can always get a lot worse. Just turn on the world news and I'm sure you'll see there are many others on this planet that would trade shoes with you in a heartbeat.

However, if you are indeed at a point where things could not possibly get any worse - the good news is then that things can only improve from where you find yourself now. Feel better, keep talking, take it one day at a time (sometimes moment by moment), and don't do anything to hurt yourself.

here here!

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Reply #6 posted 06/23/10 7:58am

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Ace said:

Have you tried therapy?

I co-sign this suggestion. Professional therapists have helped me through some of the more troubling times of my life. nod I've been surprised to learn on more than a few occasions the things that I was unknowingly doing that directly contributed to my own unhappiness. But it often takes a professional to be able to point these things out to you (or more appropriately; help you to see for yourself), over a period of time.

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Reply #7 posted 06/23/10 7:59am

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In answer to your question - I've not come anywhere near to rock bottom yet. I'm hoping my lowest point was during my childhood.

I'm really shit at giving advice, but hang in there. Things can only get better. I wish you the best.

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Reply #8 posted 06/23/10 8:50am

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Darwintheorgangrinder said:

I hit rock bottom in my life about a month ago, and I have been unable to get out. About once a week things start to look up. Then, things slowly start to deteriorate again until I get back to where I am right now.

Anybody else here?

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Reply #9 posted 06/23/10 8:57am

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Darwintheorgangrinder said:

I hit rock bottom in my life about a month ago, and I have been unable to get out. About once a week things start to look up. Then, things slowly start to deteriorate again until I get back to where I am right now.

Anybody else here?

I've been there.

I have no advice to offer. All I can say is that things did slowly turn around for me, so there is hope for you too.

I've reached in darkness and come out with treasure
I layed down with love and I woke up with lies
Whats it all worth only the heart can measure
It's not whats in the mirror but what's left inside
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Reply #10 posted 06/23/10 9:00am

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TotalANXiousNESS said:

Darwintheorgangrinder said:

I hit rock bottom in my life about a month ago, and I have been unable to get out. About once a week things start to look up. Then, things slowly start to deteriorate again until I get back to where I am right now.

Anybody else here?

I've been there.

I have no advice to offer. All I can say is that things did slowly turn around for me, so there is hope for you too.

Yeah, that’s pretty much all I can say also. Things will turn around. They have to. It’s just so damn hard to figure out how sometimes.

I echo the sentiments of seeking out counseling or therapy. I went for a short period and I think just the act of seeking help was enough to get me to see a way out of it.

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Reply #11 posted 06/23/10 9:18am

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Don't even get me started on the hole I'm stuck in right now....so I really can't offer much advice either, except 2 say pray about it.

I pray things start gettin better for the both of us....

comfort

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Reply #12 posted 06/23/10 10:11am

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Not rock bottom, no. I'm always smiling because life is good and everything I see when I wake up is beautiful in its own way. I put on Billy Cobham's 'Red Baron' and I walk down the street with a bounce. I love a lot of people and they're all amazing. I am at a bit of a loss though. I'm not perfect, and nobody is, but I'm at a point in my life where I find I've lost most of the scholarly knowledge I once had, yet feel I'm closer to where I want to be. I am good at giving love, having patience, taking care of the people around me and putting others first. I am not very good at making lots of money, though I do have some and I'm not a fool when it comes to investing. I make sure everybody around me has enough to eat and has a roof over their head and I never take anything from them without saying 'thank you' and making sure they know it's appreciated. I'm polite, I respect my elders, I love children and take care of them like they're my own even though they're not. I've helped raise one boy to be the polite, kind, loving child he is. I'm currently raising another boy to be the same, and teaching him English so he might have better opportunities when he grows up, plus generally raising him the way my own parents raised me, to share, to put his toys away, to be affectionate and to be strong and think things through for himself. There are things I can change. I can quit smoking, I can drink less. I could be less selfish sometimes, but in general I am giving my all, every last bit of me I have. I love my wife. Everybody knows I love my wife. I've never cheated, I've never had secrets my wife doesn't know, and I've never wanted anybody but my wife. It's not enough. Why is it not enough? I've grown to be the man it seems so many women say they want, not because I'm so fucking awesome but because of love. You love people, and if it turns out you're fucking awesome it's because you just love them so it's what you do. Sometimes it's not enough. What's left to do but try to love more? Maybe you'll be more fucking awesome through loving them more, but now I see something I never saw before, that maybe my experience in one single relationship in my life didn't teach me. Maybe you just can't be fucking awesome enough, no matter how much you try. Anyways, I'm listening to 'Red Baron' now and I'm bouncing, thinking of ways to love more.

MY COUSIN WORKS IN A PHARMACY AND SHE SAID THEY ENEMA'D PRANCE INTO OBLIVION WITH FENTONILS!!
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Reply #13 posted 06/23/10 10:25am

JoeTyler

First of all, let's define "rock bottom"

in my case, it would be this situation: homeless, living under a bridge, estranged from my family & friends & without a buck in my pockets.

So, NO, I've never hit rock bottom in my life...

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Reply #14 posted 06/23/10 3:12pm

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Fauxie said:

Not rock bottom, no. I'm always smiling because life is good and everything I see when I wake up is beautiful in its own way. I put on Billy Cobham's 'Red Baron' and I walk down the street with a bounce. I love a lot of people and they're all amazing. I am at a bit of a loss though. I'm not perfect, and nobody is, but I'm at a point in my life where I find I've lost most of the scholarly knowledge I once had, yet feel I'm closer to where I want to be. I am good at giving love, having patience, taking care of the people around me and putting others first. I am not very good at making lots of money, though I do have some and I'm not a fool when it comes to investing. I make sure everybody around me has enough to eat and has a roof over their head and I never take anything from them without saying 'thank you' and making sure they know it's appreciated. I'm polite, I respect my elders, I love children and take care of them like they're my own even though they're not. I've helped raise one boy to be the polite, kind, loving child he is. I'm currently raising another boy to be the same, and teaching him English so he might have better opportunities when he grows up, plus generally raising him the way my own parents raised me, to share, to put his toys away, to be affectionate and to be strong and think things through for himself. There are things I can change. I can quit smoking, I can drink less. I could be less selfish sometimes, but in general I am giving my all, every last bit of me I have. I love my wife. Everybody knows I love my wife. I've never cheated, I've never had secrets my wife doesn't know, and I've never wanted anybody but my wife. It's not enough. Why is it not enough? I've grown to be the man it seems so many women say they want, not because I'm so fucking awesome but because of love. You love people, and if it turns out you're fucking awesome it's because you just love them so it's what you do. Sometimes it's not enough. What's left to do but try to love more? Maybe you'll be more fucking awesome through loving them more, but now I see something I never saw before, that maybe my experience in one single relationship in my life didn't teach me. Maybe you just can't be fucking awesome enough, no matter how much you try. Anyways, I'm listening to 'Red Baron' now and I'm bouncing, thinking of ways to love more.

Wow. Just ...wow !

Great post, and a very enjoyable and uplifting read. Can´t really go into further details now but this post really, really cheered me up. And believe me, I really needed a bit of cheering up.

" I´d rather be a stank ass hoe because I´m not stupid. Oh my goodness! I got more drugs! I´m always funny dude...I´m hilarious! Are we gonna smoke?"
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Reply #15 posted 06/23/10 3:22pm

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when things get bad I usually have myself to blame. Not that I know what is going on in your life, so don't think that I'm preaching, but usually I need to get off my ass, call a friend, run around the block, etc.

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Reply #16 posted 06/23/10 3:32pm

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JoeTyler said:

First of all, let's define "rock bottom"

in my case, it would be this situation: homeless, living under a bridge, estranged from my family & friends & without a buck in my pockets.

So, NO, I've never hit rock bottom in my life...

I'd need more of a definition too because mine is Joe's definition and while I've been to some pretty low lows...I've never quite hit the bottom.

But it definitely sounds like you're going through some tough times. I'm hesitant to give any sort of advice (as if I were even qualified) without knowing your situation. Just gonna give you one of these for now. hug

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Reply #17 posted 06/23/10 3:50pm

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you are not alone.. hug

it can take some time to work thru

therapy does help..

just dont rush it...

you dont want visitation rights to rock bottom hug

no return visits

sun 'why y'all trying to say goodbye? I didn't go anywhere, I'm right here, im all around you,always..' sun

in a line from my dream, I heard a voice and saw a silhouette in a chair..
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Reply #18 posted 06/23/10 4:01pm

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That feeling can be consuming... trust me i know

you need to focus on the positives..... i have my girls

think about only the good things in your life.....

And if you need to laugh ...well the Org is the place to be

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Reply #19 posted 06/23/10 8:18pm

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KoolEaze said:

Fauxie said:

Not rock bottom, no. I'm always smiling because life is good and everything I see when I wake up is beautiful in its own way. I put on Billy Cobham's 'Red Baron' and I walk down the street with a bounce. I love a lot of people and they're all amazing. I am at a bit of a loss though. I'm not perfect, and nobody is, but I'm at a point in my life where I find I've lost most of the scholarly knowledge I once had, yet feel I'm closer to where I want to be. I am good at giving love, having patience, taking care of the people around me and putting others first. I am not very good at making lots of money, though I do have some and I'm not a fool when it comes to investing. I make sure everybody around me has enough to eat and has a roof over their head and I never take anything from them without saying 'thank you' and making sure they know it's appreciated. I'm polite, I respect my elders, I love children and take care of them like they're my own even though they're not. I've helped raise one boy to be the polite, kind, loving child he is. I'm currently raising another boy to be the same, and teaching him English so he might have better opportunities when he grows up, plus generally raising him the way my own parents raised me, to share, to put his toys away, to be affectionate and to be strong and think things through for himself. There are things I can change. I can quit smoking, I can drink less. I could be less selfish sometimes, but in general I am giving my all, every last bit of me I have. I love my wife. Everybody knows I love my wife. I've never cheated, I've never had secrets my wife doesn't know, and I've never wanted anybody but my wife. It's not enough. Why is it not enough? I've grown to be the man it seems so many women say they want, not because I'm so fucking awesome but because of love. You love people, and if it turns out you're fucking awesome it's because you just love them so it's what you do. Sometimes it's not enough. What's left to do but try to love more? Maybe you'll be more fucking awesome through loving them more, but now I see something I never saw before, that maybe my experience in one single relationship in my life didn't teach me. Maybe you just can't be fucking awesome enough, no matter how much you try. Anyways, I'm listening to 'Red Baron' now and I'm bouncing, thinking of ways to love more.

Wow. Just ...wow !

Great post, and a very enjoyable and uplifting read. Can´t really go into further details now but this post really, really cheered me up. And believe me, I really needed a bit of cheering up.

I'm glad you got something from it. I think I felt dismayed, had tickets on myself (my pride was pricked) and needed to vent. lol I'm a bit more pragmatic this morning. It still stands though, about loving more. When other things aren't clear there is always that, trying to love more. It's something I can do, so I never feel aimless. I hope loving more is the point to all this.

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Reply #20 posted 06/24/10 4:56am

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Fauxie said:

Not rock bottom, no. I'm always smiling because life is good and everything I see when I wake up is beautiful in its own way. I put on Billy Cobham's 'Red Baron' and I walk down the street with a bounce. I love a lot of people and they're all amazing. I am at a bit of a loss though. I'm not perfect, and nobody is, but I'm at a point in my life where I find I've lost most of the scholarly knowledge I once had, yet feel I'm closer to where I want to be. I am good at giving love, having patience, taking care of the people around me and putting others first. I am not very good at making lots of money, though I do have some and I'm not a fool when it comes to investing. I make sure everybody around me has enough to eat and has a roof over their head and I never take anything from them without saying 'thank you' and making sure they know it's appreciated. I'm polite, I respect my elders, I love children and take care of them like they're my own even though they're not. I've helped raise one boy to be the polite, kind, loving child he is. I'm currently raising another boy to be the same, and teaching him English so he might have better opportunities when he grows up, plus generally raising him the way my own parents raised me, to share, to put his toys away, to be affectionate and to be strong and think things through for himself. There are things I can change. I can quit smoking, I can drink less. I could be less selfish sometimes, but in general I am giving my all, every last bit of me I have. I love my wife. Everybody knows I love my wife. I've never cheated, I've never had secrets my wife doesn't know, and I've never wanted anybody but my wife. It's not enough. Why is it not enough? I've grown to be the man it seems so many women say they want, not because I'm so fucking awesome but because of love. You love people, and if it turns out you're fucking awesome it's because you just love them so it's what you do. Sometimes it's not enough. What's left to do but try to love more? Maybe you'll be more fucking awesome through loving them more, but now I see something I never saw before, that maybe my experience in one single relationship in my life didn't teach me. Maybe you just can't be fucking awesome enough, no matter how much you try. Anyways, I'm listening to 'Red Baron' now and I'm bouncing, thinking of ways to love more.

I can't wait to give you the biggest hug in person, fauxie.

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Something that has helped me tremendously is realizing how fucking self-centered and self-absorbed it is to be depressed. I say this not out of judgment, but as a person who has been through intense struggle and has wallowed in deep depression before.

I mean, really. As others here have said, there are so many people in worse shape than I've ever been, and conversely there is so much I can give. No matter how dire my health, finances, or personal relationships may be, I can always reach out and give, help, love. Sitting around and being caught up in how bad things are for me is a pretty gross thing to do.

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Darwin, I hope you find ways to bring yourself to where you want to be. hug

It's what you make it.
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Reply #22 posted 06/24/10 7:43am

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my 'rock bottom' was self inflicted...unfortuantely, I think a lot of peoples are but most would never fully accept or admit it...one things for sure, when you're at your lowest, your choices are limited to giving up or picking yourself up...the choice is always yours....

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Reply #23 posted 06/24/10 10:33am

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PunkMistress said:

Something that has helped me tremendously is realizing how fucking self-centered and self-absorbed it is to be depressed. I say this not out of judgment, but as a person who has been through intense struggle and has wallowed in deep depression before.

I mean, really. As others here have said, there are so many people in worse shape than I've ever been, and conversely there is so much I can give. No matter how dire my health, finances, or personal relationships may be, I can always reach out and give, help, love. Sitting around and being caught up in how bad things are for me is a pretty gross thing to do.

rose

Darwin, I hope you find ways to bring yourself to where you want to be. hug

yes! for me too.

It doesn't mean we can't hurt or we dont genuinely suffer, but generally when things get really bad it's my own fault and I am totally capable of making the necessary changes to make things better.

That is how lucky we are, able to change our circumstances but also free enough to have time to wallow in misery. Depression is actually something of a luxury.

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Reply #24 posted 06/24/10 10:54am

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life has those funky up and downs....right now I am definitely in the down on a hopeful upswing. What has gotten me through is faith, nicotine, and dogged determination.

I must say this week's low was having the cable shut off and getting a nail in my tire 3 hours from home

This week's high, however was getting my first paycheck, finally getting my state tax refund, and seeing that my tire was just a wee flat before I started my drive home so I time to get it fixed.

Just turned cable back on....man being without internet is a bitch!! I try to fake it with McDonald's free internet but it's just a little too far to be reliable mad O I hardly ever watch TV, but I am not trying to miss the BET awards for Prince....so trust, if I just paid this whopping bill and that lil fucker doesn't show up I will drive all the way to Minnesota (I do know exactly where his hous is already) and I will *insert appopriate image of high heels and asses here*

And I really do like my new job even thugh it is 3 hours away. Folk are pleasant, I'm good at what I do and they show appreciation, and I don't have to deal with John Q Public!!! nod

hug "hold on, stay strong, press on...I care for you" -Aaliyah

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Reply #25 posted 06/24/10 11:54am

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Ive been there. A few years back I had a failed buisness, was in financial ruins...bill collectors calling every day. I was nervous to check the mail,go outside etc etc.

At that point, I was just living to die. Didn't enjoy anything.

One day I was driving to work, and the sun was shining, it was a beautiful fall day, and I just said "F*ck It". Ive done the best I can do, they can't arrest me. From that moment forward, I tried to simplify my life. Got rid of unnecessary baggage. Material things and people. Tried to focus on the positive in life, and just genuinely stay grateful for what I do have.

Ive learned that hapiness is a state of mind, and it's about your perception. It truly is amazing to feel free. Now, I try and surround myself with people I love, and people that genuinely love me for me. Ive gotten rid of the bullshit. ......

Alot of alcohol helps too! wink Not a lot of lifes problems cant get forgotten by downing a few shots of tequilla. jk.....kinda.

Cheers and know that no matter what, you are in control of your life, no matter how hard that is to see right now.

It will get better, it always does.

Peace and Love

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Reply #26 posted 06/24/10 12:07pm

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The thing to remember is that we can do almost anything we want to do with our lives. But it takes some work to remember what we want to do and to plan to do it, and some effort to then go after it.

But we (most of us here on the org) are lucky enough to have freedom, even though sometimes it seems like we don't. We get bogged down with our lives & routines, but what is really keeping us from doing the things we really want to do? Usually it's us (and our fear) keeping it from ourselves.

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Reply #27 posted 06/24/10 12:28pm

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just spent 2 hours on the phone with the IRS trying to get money they owe me from 2005!!! mad

that may be my rock bottom moment of the day!!hmph!

good news is that it looks like there may finally be resolution on the horizon, the mistake has finally been found and they are working on fixing it!!

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Reply #28 posted 06/24/10 1:10pm

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No, but I have been there. Take good care of yourself, live an honest life, and use your will to make things better. Good luck.

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Reply #29 posted 06/24/10 1:30pm

Reel

You might get the answer to your question by noting how many hours of time each person is putting into the "org" forums instead of being out there and just living life.

I resigned from a very stressful job back in December. And although I've actually been digging my daily noonday beers...it's getting a bit old. I'm ready to go back to work, and I need to find it ASAP before my savings is depleted and I find myself at the mercy of yet another thankless job. I'd rather have some cushion left in my accounts in case the next job is a bust.

I just hate the idea of being "trapped" for 8-10 hours per day with people that you may not even like. That is preventing me from doing the real grind work and locating a job. But that attitude ends today. I'm really going to be trying from this day forward. I've been using the "I'm raising puppies" as an excuse not to get out there and "shake my money-maker" . Eveything with God's Blessings of course.

Although I'm your biggest fan...I'm also your biggest critic. Can you deal with that?
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