Okay...so....you've met somebody special....they are perfect in every way....and then you learn they have genital herpes.

Would it slow you down or would you go forward with this person? What about HIV positive people? Would you still date them?

i don't know enough about herpes to know what i could and couldn't do sexually, but i wouldn't let it be a dealbreaker if someone i was happily dating told me they had it. we'd just have to figure out how to make things safer for both of us.

and i totally would date someone who's HIV positive. in fact, i have.

A good man is difficult enough to come by, I wouldn’t let something like that get in the way. It would be a bit of a bummer, sure, but if it’s the right person that wouldn’t be a deal-breaker.
I wouldn’t have felt the same about it when I was younger, though. But at this stage in the game I’m looking for someone who wants to go for the long haul. I’m done with casual relationships.

Fuck slow down . . . how about come to a screeching muthafucking halt, in terms of any romantic involvement. Now, we could be friends and continue to let that develop but, ixnay the physical involvementay.

If you're doing what you need to do it shouldn't matter if a person is poz or neg.

StillGotIt said:

how hot we talkin'?

Speaking as a herpephile, I actively look for herpes ridden partners!

johnart said:

usedtobebliss said:

.....you are rendered speechless when they walk into the room.....you faint if they speak to you.....your most intimate dream come true

usedtobebliss said:

Burnin'

StillGotIt said:

can she cook?

and does she talk a lot?

SCNDLS said:

usedtobebliss said:

look dammit...i said YOUR dream come true!!!

StillGotIt said:

ok ok so she's a hot mute bi chef..... what was the question again?

usedtobebliss said:

did they wait until the heat of the moment to tell you?

i have a cousin that contracted this the first time she had sex, she was only 17. she said the guy was beautiful this and that and sure she's partially to blame, but ugh, that was kind of nasty. kind of like being bit by a vampire and now you're cursed for life And her's was just beginning.

i would just say make sure he's the one before you go swapping bodily fluids. it would make your life difficult if somehow it was passed on to you and now you have to explain this to your future lovers.

StillGotIt said:

to be absolutely honest? if i believe you are as willing and eager to explore true love and evolve as i am- who am i to judge you by your past?..

i know alot of people think i'm crazy for this (i've discussed it with people), but when i think of the way we regard people with certain afflictions i see: jesus, and the lepers (roll your eyes all you want)


i just dont feel right denying someone love because of their past mistakes, or even "for being in the wrong bed at the wrong time"

if i fall in love with a woman with herpes...or anything that matter...than i'll be the world's fool. fuck the world

SirPsycho said:

couldn't have said it better

thekidsgirl said:

! :LOVEWILLCONQUERIFYOUJUSTBELIEVE:

SirPsycho said:

OH and ps....(just to fuck withya'll minds)


1 out of 11 people (if not smaller) have a strand of herpes...


annnnnd..


herpes is shared through viral shedding (which isn't blocked by any condom), and not always during outbreaks...

aaanddd...none of the medications (valtrex, etc), garentee protection



so

all of us could catch herpes at any given moment it would seem...






safe swimin folks

SirPsycho said:

@ both y'all.

SirPsycho said:

It's only mountains, and herpeees.

SirPsycho said:

:LOVEWON'TCUREHERPESNOMATTERHOWHARDYOUBELIEVE:

SirPsycho said:

before you ask...i've been with someone with herpes before, thats how i learned about this stuff...as far as my last test (which was a month or two ago) i'm clean tho

so lol

sinisterpentatonic said:

i dont agree with the attitude but i will offer you this==>

thekidsgirl said:

thekidsgirl said:

there's nothing better than catching S.T.D's

sinisterpentatonic said:

Absolutely, that is a true statement.
But,you'd rather chance no love and a life alone than take precautions?

SirPsycho said:

call me when you make that trip down to the clinic and i'll be there to offer you this ==>