Ever feel like your going absolutely no where in life?

So what do you do?

I think I'm having a mid-life crisis.


But I'm not even 21 yet, so are beg-life crisis possible?

Nope, just take control and aim at something, without a goal you just drift.

Good luck

Yep.

Do something about it now, before you're saddled with all the responsibilties and trappings of 'adulthood' (mortgage, debt, marriage, kids etc). Make the absolute most of your youth, its a precious time that you will never get back. You have so many possibilities open to you, so take a short time to have a think about what you want to do and where you want to be in your future then put your head down and go for it!

Good luck with whatever you decide to do

"Mo chuisle mo chroí"

All day, all night...You can be my baby, I'll make you feel alright...

There s nothing wrong with drifting. Just ride out the "feeling" of going no where. Don t make any rash decisions. Plenty of people will give you advice but do what you want to do,including doing nothing if thats what you want.

Almost everyday lately

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start doing research on 'the law of attraction'

life will never be 'perfect'.

but you do have power over your thoughts which become your actions

Every couple months I hit a wall, and just feel like my life is completely pointless and going nowhere....

I usually just isolate myself and try to work through it
set new goals, re-evaluate the situation and plan for the future

That generally gets me back to normal in a few days or so

Good Luck

YES, the last time I opened my 401k statement.

Yep!

its called growing up

minneapolisFunq said:

its called growing up

on and off I feel that way. I have a stable job right now though I'm not sure for how much longer. Though I like my field, I've thought about switching to something else, but I'm not sure what yet though I want to go back to school next year. I've been volunteering on the side and pursuing my hobbies, but not sure if I want to make that a career or not.

alphastreet said:

I know this feeling all too well... more than I should have ever known, really. And I'm only 18, which may make my sentiments null-and-void in a way, but all the same, once upon a time I could relate to your situation.


For multiple years, I had no social life. I sat at the computer all day doing nothing. I was an enormous underachiever and slacker in school. I had undiagnosed mental disorders. I had similarly mentally ill, overgrown-children parents who fought all the time and emotionally bruised me with drug addictions, racism, etc. I dressed plain, looked plain, was lazy, had no real hobbies, had this "shy", "strange" personality, no self-esteem to speak of... hell, I didn't even have the BEDROOM of a teenager . Basically, in the world of experience and self-defining known as adolescence, I was an undefined, inexperienced gray blob who stagnated.


And then, I moved out of my house for a few months to get away from everything and try to start anew. Thanks to medication and some really deep counselling, I've been able to undergo a metamorphosis and see a light at the end of the tunnel. In retrospect, I really had more than I thought in my old life: A beloved best friend who had nothing but unconditional love for me; other great -- or potentially great -- friends who I just neglected out of self-consciousness; times when I actually DID embrace socializing and was actually HAPPY (you'd think I would have pursued that more often); talents and qualities about myself that I didn't appreciate before (I could write a mean poem and people tended to really like me once they got to know me; ROCK concerts . And my parents... well, you know what? They really were great people on the inside that did a lot for me and supported me when they weren't indulging in their own demons and dysfunction. They weren't bad or evil, they just had their own issues thanks to unpleasant events in their own lives/youth. I've made so many amends with them and can't imagine my life without them.


I have dreams now and have made a lot of progress. I am doing better in school. I look better. I spin those poems more often. I've read movies and books that were absolute experiences. And whereas before I was going to drop out of high school, I now am going to be attending college in the fall and majoring in music. This summer I'm preparing for my major with music theory education and guitar lessons.


I look forward to moving back and living life like I never have before. I've been changed. I will never forget that unhappiness in the past, and maybe it will never stop haunting me 100%, but it is accepting what happened back then and where I was, that has led me to appreciate life perhaps more than many people my age who have embraced it longer do.


I feel for you, dude. Life is so much more than what we ever could imagine once we look and feel beyond our self-made boundaries, our voids, our pain, our demons, our ghosts. Once we think we have reached a sort of hopelessness, though, we can only ascend to greater heights unless we let that hopelessness consume us. I have faith you will come out through the other side.


And I'm sorry if that post was a little self-indulgent.

yep, should be married and in my own place already...

squiddyren said:

I know this feeling all too well... more than I should have ever known, really. And I'm only 18, which may make my sentiments null-and-void in a way, but all the same, once upon a time I could relate to your situation.


For multiple years, I had no social life. I sat at the computer all day doing nothing. I was an enormous underachiever and slacker in school. I had undiagnosed mental disorders. I had similarly mentally ill, overgrown-children parents who fought all the time and emotionally bruised me with drug addictions, racism, etc. I dressed plain, looked plain, was lazy, had no real hobbies, had this "shy", "strange" personality, no self-esteem to speak of... hell, I didn't even have the BEDROOM of a teenager . Basically, in the world of experience and self-defining known as adolescence, I was an undefined, inexperienced gray blob who stagnated.


And then, I moved out of my house for a few months to get away from everything and try to start anew. Thanks to medication and some really deep counselling, I've been able to undergo a metamorphosis and see a light at the end of the tunnel. In retrospect, I really had more than I thought in my old life: A beloved best friend who had nothing but unconditional love for me; other great -- or potentially great -- friends who I just neglected out of self-consciousness; times when I actually DID embrace socializing and was actually HAPPY (you'd think I would have pursued that more often); talents and qualities about myself that I didn't appreciate before (I could write a mean poem and people tended to really like me once they got to know me; ROCK concerts . And my parents... well, you know what? They really were great people on the inside that did a lot for me and supported me when they weren't indulging in their own demons and dysfunction. They weren't bad or evil, they just had their own issues thanks to unpleasant events in their own lives/youth. I've made so many amends with them and can't imagine my life without them.


I have dreams now and have made a lot of progress. I am doing better in school. I look better. I spin those poems more often. I've read movies and books that were absolute experiences. And whereas before I was going to drop out of high school, I now am going to be attending college in the fall and majoring in music. This summer I'm preparing for my major with music theory education and guitar lessons.


I look forward to moving back and living life like I never have before. I've been changed. I will never forget that unhappiness in the past, and maybe it will never stop haunting me 100%, but it is accepting what happened back then and where I was, that has led me to appreciate life perhaps more than many people my age who have embraced it longer do.


I feel for you, dude. Life is so much more than what we ever could imagine once we look and feel beyond our self-made boundaries, our voids, our pain, our demons, our ghosts. Once we think we have reached a sort of hopelessness, though, we can only ascend to greater heights unless we let that hopelessness consume us. I have faith you will come out through the other side.


And I'm sorry if that post was a little self-indulgent.

"Mo chuisle mo chroí"

All day, all night...You can be my baby, I'll make you feel alright...

squiddyren said:

I know this feeling all too well... more than I should have ever known, really. And I'm only 18, which may make my sentiments null-and-void in a way, but all the same, once upon a time I could relate to your situation.


For multiple years, I had no social life. I sat at the computer all day doing nothing. I was an enormous underachiever and slacker in school. I had undiagnosed mental disorders. I had similarly mentally ill, overgrown-children parents who fought all the time and emotionally bruised me with drug addictions, racism, etc. I dressed plain, looked plain, was lazy, had no real hobbies, had this "shy", "strange" personality, no self-esteem to speak of... hell, I didn't even have the BEDROOM of a teenager . Basically, in the world of experience and self-defining known as adolescence, I was an undefined, inexperienced gray blob who stagnated.


And then, I moved out of my house for a few months to get away from everything and try to start anew. Thanks to medication and some really deep counselling, I've been able to undergo a metamorphosis and see a light at the end of the tunnel. In retrospect, I really had more than I thought in my old life: A beloved best friend who had nothing but unconditional love for me; other great -- or potentially great -- friends who I just neglected out of self-consciousness; times when I actually DID embrace socializing and was actually HAPPY (you'd think I would have pursued that more often); talents and qualities about myself that I didn't appreciate before (I could write a mean poem and people tended to really like me once they got to know me; ROCK concerts . And my parents... well, you know what? They really were great people on the inside that did a lot for me and supported me when they weren't indulging in their own demons and dysfunction. They weren't bad or evil, they just had their own issues thanks to unpleasant events in their own lives/youth. I've made so many amends with them and can't imagine my life without them.


I have dreams now and have made a lot of progress. I am doing better in school. I look better. I spin those poems more often. I've read movies and books that were absolute experiences. And whereas before I was going to drop out of high school, I now am going to be attending college in the fall and majoring in music. This summer I'm preparing for my major with music theory education and guitar lessons.


I look forward to moving back and living life like I never have before. I've been changed. I will never forget that unhappiness in the past, and maybe it will never stop haunting me 100%, but it is accepting what happened back then and where I was, that has led me to appreciate life perhaps more than many people my age who have embraced it longer do.


I feel for you, dude. Life is so much more than what we ever could imagine once we look and feel beyond our self-made boundaries, our voids, our pain, our demons, our ghosts. Once we think we have reached a sort of hopelessness, though, we can only ascend to greater heights unless we let that hopelessness consume us. I have faith you will come out through the other side.


And I'm sorry if that post was a little self-indulgent.

squiddyren said:

I know this feeling all too well... more than I should have ever known, really. And I'm only 18, which may make my sentiments null-and-void in a way, but all the same, once upon a time I could relate to your situation.


For multiple years, I had no social life. I sat at the computer all day doing nothing. I was an enormous underachiever and slacker in school. I had undiagnosed mental disorders. I had similarly mentally ill, overgrown-children parents who fought all the time and emotionally bruised me with drug addictions, racism, etc. I dressed plain, looked plain, was lazy, had no real hobbies, had this "shy", "strange" personality, no self-esteem to speak of... hell, I didn't even have the BEDROOM of a teenager . Basically, in the world of experience and self-defining known as adolescence, I was an undefined, inexperienced gray blob who stagnated.


And then, I moved out of my house for a few months to get away from everything and try to start anew. Thanks to medication and some really deep counselling, I've been able to undergo a metamorphosis and see a light at the end of the tunnel. In retrospect, I really had more than I thought in my old life: A beloved best friend who had nothing but unconditional love for me; other great -- or potentially great -- friends who I just neglected out of self-consciousness; times when I actually DID embrace socializing and was actually HAPPY (you'd think I would have pursued that more often); talents and qualities about myself that I didn't appreciate before (I could write a mean poem and people tended to really like me once they got to know me; ROCK concerts . And my parents... well, you know what? They really were great people on the inside that did a lot for me and supported me when they weren't indulging in their own demons and dysfunction. They weren't bad or evil, they just had their own issues thanks to unpleasant events in their own lives/youth. I've made so many amends with them and can't imagine my life without them.


I have dreams now and have made a lot of progress. I am doing better in school. I look better. I spin those poems more often. I've read movies and books that were absolute experiences. And whereas before I was going to drop out of high school, I now am going to be attending college in the fall and majoring in music. This summer I'm preparing for my major with music theory education and guitar lessons.


I look forward to moving back and living life like I never have before. I've been changed. I will never forget that unhappiness in the past, and maybe it will never stop haunting me 100%, but it is accepting what happened back then and where I was, that has led me to appreciate life perhaps more than many people my age who have embraced it longer do.


I feel for you, dude. Life is so much more than what we ever could imagine once we look and feel beyond our self-made boundaries, our voids, our pain, our demons, our ghosts. Once we think we have reached a sort of hopelessness, though, we can only ascend to greater heights unless we let that hopelessness consume us. I have faith you will come out through the other side.


And I'm sorry if that post was a little self-indulgent.

there were many moments in my teenage years and in my early 20's when i felt like my life was going no where and it was standing still. so i came to a point when i did something about it. i made tons of changes, and reached outside of my comfort zone, and that's when i really found joy in my life.
i really do feel life is full of seasons....

everyday for the past 4 months.

Negritaluvyu said:

Yup. I've felt this way for the past 2 years now.

Irish Diplomacy: The art of telling someone to go to hell, and having them look forward to the trip.

My give a damn is busted.

iinthesky85 said:

alphastreet said:

Ask mdiver he has been riding round and round in circles going absolutely no where for years

got to go, gots to go!


I gotta see beyond the trees right now and it feels like i'm looking past heaven,

i have friends who have needs right now...and they have been waiting since 11!

If you see them, they aren't friendly, they are too caught up and busy spending.


throw a rock, hide your hands, and spend your way to the promised land.

endymion said:

Ask mdiver he has been riding round and round in circles going absolutely no where for years

Get in the car and drive back.