How Do you Divvy Up House Work?

I could just pull my hair out sometimes! My husband is not consistent with helping out. We both work and I feel like we both should take care of household jobs.

In this day and age do you find youself fitting into old stereotypes of family? Wife cooking, cleaning. Husband kicking tires- popping beers in the garage- dusting the remote control with his fingers?

How do you stay sane??

If you have to do something kicking and screaming and tearing down others with your "self love" words- maybe you shouldn't be doing it in the first place.

Chicks do the housework. I move my feet when they vacuum and get my own beers.

I do cook though, but it's because of my awesomeness.

I’d love it if my cat did the dishes once in a while. Or at least cleaned out her own litter box.

As it is, I have to do everything myself.

The Maid does it..

fold some clothes, sweep, something-

and the worse is all the "makebelieve" errands on off days

I feel a strike coming on

If you have to do something kicking and screaming and tearing down others with your "self love" words- maybe you shouldn't be doing it in the first place.

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100% me, 0% anyone else.

RenHoek said:

Mars23 said:

Chicks do the housework. I move my feet when they vacuum and get my own beers.

I do cook though, but it's because of my awesomeness.

you move your feet AND get your own beers...

is the beer cold yet?

He will sometimes do the vacuuming, cause he is obsessing over the new carpet. He mows the lawn once in a blue moon, makes a BBQ once in a while, umm…
the rest I do

He does the outside....I do in...and I cook.
Although for the last 6 weeks or so we have had a cleaner come once week to do the inside.

Mars23 said:

RenHoek said:

you move your feet AND get your own beers...

The tap for my easy chair will be in next week.

I'm not joking.

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He does the outside work, mow the lawn, trim the hedges, pull the weeds, pick up after the dog etc. I clean the kitchen and bathrooms, my kids take turns with the rest: living room, bedrooms, vacuuming etc.

i think when i have a partner it will be both of us doing everything.

none of this female/male role old fashioned stuff...im not saying h\this is bad but just not 4 me.

D.I.V.O.R.C.E.

it's a small issue that can end up a big one. Either the other person learns to clean, or helps pay for a maid, or...

NDRU said:

D.I.V.O.R.C.E.

it's a small issue that can end up a big one. Either the other person learns to clean, or helps pay for a maid, or...

My husband pretends to be in charge of the car and the yard.

I do the house. I assign all the chores to the kids and follow up with repercussions if they are not done. It is always a struugle not to just do it all by myself because my teens are not that interested in doing a good or speedy job of anything more than fixing their hair.

If I complain, my husband points out that he'd be perfectly happy living in filth.

“Sometimes I think the surest sign that intelligent life exists elsewhere in the universe is that none of it has tried to contact us.”
-Calvin & Hobbes

CarrieMpls said:

Measure in Love
Now the Lord is sayin' to me, "Whitey, Please..."

Outside
I do the mowing/raking
Wife does the plantings/gardening

Inside
I do laundry, vacuum, dishes, clean the bathroom(s)
Wife does dusting, cleaning, puts away dishes
We both pick up after our kids throughout the course of the day.

I do about 85-90% of the indoor and outdoor chores....I'm not a psychotic neat freak, but I guess the whole military thing causes me some angst when things are not organized....I also do it because when I get deployed, my wife has to be mom, dad, and everything else when I'm gone for a year or more at a time...so its my way of giving her some respite while I'm here.....

He was like a cock who thought the sun had risen to hear him crow.
(George Eliot)

the video for the above...
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Ocean said:

NDRU said:

D.I.V.O.R.C.E.

it's a small issue that can end up a big one. Either the other person learns to clean, or helps pay for a maid, or...

For me.....my husband does an extrememly physical job..works long hours....and even though I work too...I don't expect him to come home and cook and clean ...
Having said that ..there is not a lazy bone in his body and he is always working on something (not sitting in front of the tv) .....the lawns are always mowed..the pool clean....maintainence done...anything I need doing done. It just seems fair to me that I cook and clean the house (he does do BBQ's )

Now that Im working pretty long hours and only have one day off a week he got me a cleaner ....(and I m the one that feels guilty abut paying someone for something I could do..while he says don't worry about it)
I think as long as there is a balance and the right attitude..it's all good
[Edited 12/3/08 22:22pm]

I do all of my own cleaning/housework, I use to do all of my own yard work until I hired someone to do it for me. It's so nice to come home and my yard is all done

Ocean said:

NDRU said:

D.I.V.O.R.C.E.

it's a small issue that can end up a big one. Either the other person learns to clean, or helps pay for a maid, or...

For me.....my husband does an extrememly physical job..works long hours....and even though I work too...I don't expect him to come home and cook and clean ...
Having said that ..there is not a lazy bone in his body and he is always working on something (not sitting in front of the tv) .....the lawns are always mowed..the pool clean....maintainence done...anything I need doing done. It just seems fair to me that I cook and clean the house (he does do BBQ's )

Now that Im working pretty long hours and only have one day off a week he got me a cleaner ....(and I m the one that feels guilty abut paying someone for something I could do..while he says don't worry about it)
I think as long as there is a balance and the right attitude..it's all good
[Edited 12/3/08 22:22pm]

If you have to do something kicking and screaming and tearing down others with your "self love" words- maybe you shouldn't be doing it in the first place.

CarrieMpls said:

Irish Diplomacy: The art of telling someone to go to hell, and having them look forward to the trip.

My give a damn is busted.

applekisses said:

CarrieMpls said:

I’d love it if my cat did the dishes once in a while. Or at least cleaned out her own litter box.

As it is, I have to do everything myself.

Same here. Mine don't even clean up their own hairballs!

Irish Diplomacy: The art of telling someone to go to hell, and having them look forward to the trip.

My give a damn is busted.

applekisses said:

CarrieMpls said:

I’d love it if my cat did the dishes once in a while. Or at least cleaned out her own litter box.

As it is, I have to do everything myself.

Same here. Mine don't even clean up their own hairballs!

NDRU said:

applekisses said:

Same here. Mine don't even clean up their own hairballs!

even worse, my cat sometimes attacks when we clean the catbox! that bitch!

Irish Diplomacy: The art of telling someone to go to hell, and having them look forward to the trip.

My give a damn is busted.

i live alone.

applekisses said:

CarrieMpls said:

I’d love it if my cat did the dishes once in a while. Or at least cleaned out her own litter box.

As it is, I have to do everything myself.

Same here. Mine don't even clean up their own hairballs!