Help! I need an advice.(On men and relationships)

I have this problem.
Last year I met a guy who happened to work at the same place. The nature of our work, however, did not allow us to get to know each other well. We´d just meet and manage to exchange few sentences. Nothing deep. But I fell in love with this guy. After we both stopped working there, our lives went seperate ways.
I managed to get his email address though and sent him an email saying that I liked him. No answer. I slowly put up with the fact that I have no chance.
After a year, I got an email invitation to join him at one website as his friend. (this invitation might have been sent by accident becasue it was probably spread automatically to anyone in you address box)
I answered telling him that his invitation was a nice surprise. He answered after a month telling me that I look lovely in the photo on that website, better than I looked at work.
Again, I answered. He replied after 2 weeks apologizing, he´s been on vacation away from civilisation, asked about how I was doing, saying we have to meet one day leaving his phone number.
I sent two SMS, tried even to call him - no reply.
It´s been almost a week since I got last message from him and I am beginning to loose my patience because I just don´t understand why it takes him so long to write a short email or SMS. What would you do, guys?

i wouldn't bother with him anymore. if he was honestly interested he'd have responded by now, most likely.

evenstar3 said:

He's not into you. At all.

Don't waste any more time, like evenstar said. Move on to someone who is interested.

What evenstar and funkmistress said. Stop stalking him.

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If Avril Lavigne fell in a bear trap in the woods and no-one was around, would she make a soundcheck?

Fauxie said:

What evenstar and funkmistress said. Stop stalking him.

this thread is on fiyah in about 3 hours ...

you really think he was on vacation ??

BlueZebra said:

dag said:

dag said:

BlueZebra said:

this thread is on fiyah in about 3 hours ...

you really think he was on vacation ??

I don´t know. He said that it did him good so I don´t know.

Anyways, I am not stalking him guys. Not that much.
He was the one who initiated our current "contact". He invited me to become his friend and even if this invitation was sent out automatically, he did not have to answer telling me how beautiful I look in that photo. His last email was quite long, so I´m thinking why would he bother writing if he was not interested, If he didn´t answer like he didn´t a year ago, it would be clear to me. But his last two messages are nice and seem flirty, that´s why I don´t get this.

Do you think I should write to him ask him to tell me his true intentions - if he´s really interested in something or if he just felt like writing or whatever...I don´t know.

See, I always had the feeling that my love life has never been great becasue I never really let the guys know how I felt about them and that they probably thought I was not interested, so I am trying this time a little hard not to repeat my previous mistakes, but this seems to be not working either.

It is not easy for me to fall in love and I don´t feel like waiting again to meet someone else...ah DAMN IT!
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wait. His name isn't Dan is it ? If so, he's totally not worth it.

His name is not Dan.

And if you were asking about my pictures, you can see it over here.
http://www.lide.cz/siskova.dagmar

WillyWonka said:

dag said:

BlueZebra said:

dag said:

His name is not Dan.

And if you were asking about my pictures, you can see it over here.
http://www.lide.cz/siskova.dagmar

he was not lying

BlueZebra said:

WillyWonka said:

Maybe he types using his forehead.

x 10.000

long story short ... we had a customer a few years back where the system failed ever so often. After a long search, we found out it happened when one operator was on duty so we asked him what happened before the system crashed and he showed us ....

he covered as much keys on the keyboard with his hands and then dropped his forehead on the keyboard

another example that no system can ever be made fool-proof. God will always invent a better fool

dag said:

He's not interested....enough that is, because he's got other things (person, people, whatever) on the go.

Move on.

dag said:

abierman said:

dag said:

His name is not Dan.

And if you were asking about my pictures, you can see it over here.
http://www.lide.cz/siskova.dagmar

maybe you shouldn't memtion on that site that you don't drink alcohol.....

I was flip earlier in regards to your question. Here's my serious answer:

Don't court heartache by continuing to contact this person, or torment yourself by indulging in wishful thinking about what he's said in his sporadic correspondences. He is quite blase about responding to your emails and messages; were he genuinely interested in establishing something beyond just the casual, he'd be much more prompt and attentive.

At the very least, he's inconsiderate.

You're a pretty lady and seem very nice - do yourself a favour and move on to greener pastures.

WillyWonka said:

I was flip earlier in regards to your question. Here's my serious answer:

Don't court heartache by continuing to contact this person, or torment yourself by indulging in wishful thinking about what he's said in his sporadic correspondences. He is quite blase about responding to your emails and messages; were he genuinely interested in establishing something beyond just the casual, he'd be much more prompt and attentive.

At the very least, he's inconsiderate.

You're a pretty lady and seem very nice - do yourself a favour and move on to greener pastures.

dag said:

abierman said:

maybe you shouldn't memtion on that site that you don't drink alcohol.....

Why? I really don´t drink it. SHould I pretend that I do? What would be the point in doing so? Do you think that it is so important to some people?

BTW do you speak Czech?

abierman said:

dag said:

Why? I really don´t drink it. SHould I pretend that I do? What would be the point in doing so? Do you think that it is so important to some people?

BTW do you speak Czech?

no, but I can figure out what the words 'Alkohol' & 'abstinent' mean....

dag said:

abierman said:

no, but I can figure out what the words 'Alkohol' & 'abstinent' mean....

alright....

It´s just interesting that you even bothered reading if you don´t speak the language cause it´s at the very end...

FunkMistress said:

OK guys. Maybe you´ll think I am crazy, but I have just sent him my last message.
I wrote him that I have probably misread his messages. That he knows that I like him cause I wrote him about a year ago and that I was hoping that he had answered cause he was interested. But since he is not answering, I can only imagine that I was wrong. I asked him to tell me what intentions he´s had with me and that even bad news is better for me than no news becasue it will help me forget him - for the second time.

I took someone´s advice here to show ppl my feelings so I did and this is the last thing that I have written to him. I just hope that he´ll answer. If not, he was not really worth amything.

dag said:

abierman said:

dag said:

OK guys. Maybe you´ll think I am crazy, but I have just sent him my last message.
I wrote him that I have probably misread his messages. That he knows that I like him cause I wrote him about a year ago and that I was hoping that he had answered cause he was interested. But since he is not answering, I can only imagine that I was wrong. I asked him to tell me what intentions he´s had with me and that even bad news is better for me than no news becasue it will help me forget him - for the second time.

I took someone´s advice here to show ppl my feelings so I did and this is the last thing that I have written to him. I just hope that he´ll answer. If not, he was not really worth amything.

he probably won't.....he's not interested.....I wouldn't answer in his case.....I'm sorry!

dag said:

abierman said:

he probably won't.....he's not interested.....I wouldn't answer in his case.....I'm sorry!

And why wouldn´t you answer?