my partner just told me she had a lesbian experience

WTF.....out of the blue...my partner, who i have know for years, told me that she had had a lesbian fling with a school friend when she was about 15. she said she was staying overnight with this school friend and her parents were out and her friend started kissing her and that, being totally innocent, responded and they ended up having oral sex with each other ....
...she has always said to me that the thought of doing that to another female makes her feel sick so i was amazed that she told me this. i thought she was winding me up but she has sworn on her parents life this is true. she asked me what i thought of this, and to be honest, i am not sure.....i just think the thought of my partner having a lesbian experience very confusing.....i know teenagers have these little flings with their friends, she said it happened just once, but when its your girlfriend.....WTF

how is this confusing to you?

brownsugar said:

I would take it as, a lot of people experiment when they are younger... I wouldn't put too much emphasis on it.. How will this NOW effect your day to day life with your girfriend? Did she suddently decide to be a lesbian now? Did she decide she is now attracted to women? Or do you just feel sort of betrayed because she kept this from you? The problem may be lying more with you, than with the actual situation itself. Also why did she choose now to tell you about this?

Just some food for thought!

The day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom - Anais Nin

"Unnecessary giggling"...

Don't overreact!!! She took you in her confidence. Don't make her feel weird or allienated. Turn this into a positive experience. Open up communication

blackbob said:

brownsugar said:

how is this confusing to you?

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well the thought of two teenage girls together is not an unpleasant thought for most men but when its my partner.....WTF

BabyCakes said:

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Don't overreact!!! She took you in her confidence. Don't make her feel weird or allienated. Turn this into a positive experience. Open up communication

"Nobody makes me bleed my own blood...NOBODY!"
"Time for me to exit into the night"

Hell, I'm white and I be damned if I would live somewhere that has no black folks. I would die of boredom. -vainandy

blackbob said:

BabyCakes said:

I would take it as, a lot of people experiment when they are younger... I wouldn't put too much emphasis on it.. How will this NOW effect your day to day life with your girfriend? Did she suddently decide to be a lesbian now? Did she decide she is now attracted to women? Or do you just feel sort of betrayed because she kept this from you? The problem may be lying more with you, than with the actual situation itself. Also why did she choose now to tell you about this?

Just some food for thought!

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she said she must have blanked it out.....i suppose it was just a bit of a surprize to me....i have know her for a long time and i would never have thought she would do something like that....but it was a long time ago.....still..that image of her and a schoolfriend at it.....not sure of i feel about it

The day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom - Anais Nin

"Unnecessary giggling"...

blackbob said:

BabyCakes said:

I would take it as, a lot of people experiment when they are younger... I wouldn't put too much emphasis on it.. How will this NOW effect your day to day life with your girfriend? Did she suddently decide to be a lesbian now? Did she decide she is now attracted to women? Or do you just feel sort of betrayed because she kept this from you? The problem may be lying more with you, than with the actual situation itself. Also why did she choose now to tell you about this?

Just some food for thought!

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she said she must have blanked it out.....i suppose it was just a bit of a surprize to me....i have know her for a long time and i would never have thought she would do something like that....but it was a long time ago.....still..that image of her and a schoolfriend at it.....not sure how i feel about it :confuse:the brianless sex drive in me finds it a turn on but the thinking part of me finds it a bit disturbing.....you learn something new every day eh....
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To me this is not a big deal. Be happy that she feels comfortable with telling you esp after her initial reactions you saw in the past.

Trust me at 15...it is SO not a big deal. Even with Boys...again, not a big deal. Though I do doubt she'll ever do it again.

It was just one experience in her life and it has no reflection on who or what she's doing today.

I'm with cakes and supa...it happened a long time ago...who cares man....she could have told you something much worse than that...be glad!

So, will you tell her now about YOUR experience?

You owe me $5. I caught the big fish....again

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

blackbob said:

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she said she must have blanked it out.....i suppose it was just a bit of a surprize to me....i have know her for a long time and i would never have thought she would do something like that....but it was a long time ago.....still..that image of her and a schoolfriend at it.....not sure how i feel about it :confuse:the brianless sex drive in me finds it a turn on but the thinking part of me finds it a bit disturbing.....you learn something new every day eh....
[Edited 7/6/05 11:06am]

Don't you think you'd be disturbed no matter the sex? This sounds to me less about being disturbed over a same sex experience than it is the thought of your girlfriend being with anyone else period.

pardonme4livin said:

I'm with cakes and supa...it happened a long time ago...who cares man....she could have told you something much worse than that...be glad!

The day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom - Anais Nin

"Unnecessary giggling"...

PANDURITO said:

So, will you tell her now about YOUR experience?

blackbob said:

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Don't you think you'd be disturbed no matter the sex? This sounds to me less about being disturbed over a same sex experience than it is the thought of your girlfriend being with anyone else period.

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hi supa, mate.....no i think it is the fact that 1..she never told me....2.she had told me many a time that doing something lesbian turned her stomach then turns round and tells me this....3. i find it a turn on but am confused at the same time.....it is not a big deal.....it was twenty years ago....just didnt expect it from her thats all

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what do you mean by fake boyfriend?
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pretty much every woman i've every dated has had a lesbian experience in high school, it's so normal it's almost weird when it DIDN'T Happen. there was a point in the early to mid nineties when it became fashionable and i've known a couple of girls who did it just to fit in (or at least that's what they told me) it's probably happened to a lot more people than you realize.

I want a lesbian experience.

Nikki23 said:

blackbob said:

pardonme4livin said:

Nikki23 said:

I want a lesbian experience.

Ask around Nikki...I am willing to bet there are lots of girls here that'll volunteer..... ( ask Joey! He's really a she )

Nikki23 said:

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Don't overreact!!! She took you in her confidence. Don't make her feel weird or allienated. Turn this into a positive experience. Open up communication

CarrieLee said:

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Don't overreact!!! She took you in her confidence. Don't make her feel weird or allienated. Turn this into a positive experience. Open up communication

Yeah now you might be able to have 3 somes!

blackbob said:

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Don't you think you'd be disturbed no matter the sex? This sounds to me less about being disturbed over a same sex experience than it is the thought of your girlfriend being with anyone else period.

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hi supa, mate.....no i think it is the fact that 1..she never told me....2.she had told me many a time that doing something lesbian turned her stomach then turns round and tells me this....3. i find it a turn on but am confused at the same time.....it is not a big deal.....it was twenty years ago....just didnt expect it from her thats all

Mada, Yeah thats me. AND WHAT

Bob
That was awhile ago. I bet there are things you did at 15 years old you wouldn't do today? If you want to bring another woman into the bedroom just ask. Don't be shocked for her wanting to invite another man in bed with you two. Save the trio stuff for your casual friends. Once you share your partner with another person, you will never look at your partner the same.

BabyCakes said: